I post a question on this subject and got all supportive answers but I think I am still looking for more opinions.
When I was a kid my mom's 20 yr old stepbrother took care of us a lot (my little bro & me). He us took us to movies, games, museums, at our request sometimes to the pool.
Mom had him promise not to let my brother and me out of his site, so on pool visits both of us went into the men's locker room with him. I didn't shower but waited in my suit while the guys changed and showered. Most of the time he tried to stay turned the other way.
I understand sometimes quirks like exhibitionism can be subtle. I am certainly not claiming to be a victim, nothing like that. But are there signs of some exhibitionist tendency on his part in this? One of GFs was at our house at the time so she came with a couple times. He think he said we the girls could stuck together and use the womens locker room but went with the guys, I think because some girls we didn't like we wanted to avoid. So both on the way in and out we also stood and watched the guys s.hower and change. She was a little more advanced than I was and she took quite greater notice of things. At 7 /12 or 8 we hadn't seen naked men before, at least I hadn't.
So, what is the verdict was this his chance to practice a exhibitionist tendency? Any thoughts swould be appreciated
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I don't see that previous question, yet I swear I remember reading just the scenario you described above......confused.
I don't think so. He offered you to go into the ladies locker room.....
Ok, why are you wondering about this so many years later??? I don't think he was based on what you wrote. Let it go.
I have not checked your previous posts.
But, honey, you are looking for something that did not exist. Nothing sounds wrong about this except a 19/20 year old being tasked with raising two kids.
Chill out about this.
This can't be the same guy you posted about in December, 2010....He was 19 then and was YOUR stepbrother.
Fast forward and now he is your uncle and was 20 when he took care of you...last year?? Another stepbrother/uncle???
Sorry, something sounds fishy. What's the scoop??
This is the second time you've talked about this. I really feel like you want to accuse your uncle of something and are practicing on us. Or, you are trying to convince yourself that you and your friend had no guilt in watching the guys shower.
Instead of trying to blame your uncle, forgive yourself for looking at naked guys. And drop the subject.
Dawn
You question is very confusing so I looked back on your other questions to try to gain insight and you seem to be obsessed with nudity. :(
No it doesn't sound like an exhibitionist. He sounds like he didn't want you out of his sight, like protecting you....like his sister told him to.
I'm confused as to why you would ask this again, almost 2 years later. My answer hasn't changed. Has this uncle done something to you or done something that you disapprove of and you want to use this as another "nail in his coffin" so to speak? Do you WANT him to be an exhibitionist? I just don't get why this is an issue for you at all. He was trying to look after you as a child and had been told not to let you out of his sight. He offered for you and your friend to go in the ladies' room. He was 20 for goodness sake! How many single, non-parent 20 year old guys do you know who would really know exactly what to do in this situation? I think he was fine. YOU were the ones staring at the naked men -does that make you voyeurs?
Are you trying to pin something on him this many years later?
It sounds like you have an issue with something and you are trying to make him pay for it be suggesting he is some sort of predator.
It happened years ago, he was not letting you out of his site PER YOUR MOMS's instruction. Let this go... It is not healthy to attempt to make something out of nothing, especially something that could seriously damage your uncle's reputation unfairly.
Is there more you're afraid to tell us? I mean more then this post and the last post about your stepuncle or stepbrother?
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I feel like I've read this question before. I'll have to go back and check your other posts.
My gym provides a "family" changing room so that little girls don't have to go into the men's locker rooms with their daddies (or uncles) and little boys don't have to go in with their moms, etc. However, even in our gym, you would have had to shower in the same room with your uncle. I don't see how that would be avoidable when you were so young.
No, it doesn't sound like he was an exhibitionist. At all. Not even a little. I'll have to go back and read your other posts to be sure, but honestly - no. I don't really get why you're so focused on this.
doesn't sound like it to me.
khairete
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I don't even understand your question, to be honest.
You were a kid. No one was hurt, or even attempted to be harmed in any way. Why in the world are you even still thinking about this? How strange.
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He was told to not let you out of his sight by your mother and he did not. If he was an exhibitionist he would have found a way to expose himself during the many times he was responsible for you. Bringing you into a locker room with your brother to keep you from being alone at the pool is not a red flag.
I remember this question from before. I don't think anyone answered 'yes' the first time either. Why does this bother you so much? You may need to try and figure out the 'real' trigger.
I wonder why you're asking this question again. Your question requires only a simple yes or no. I say no, he's not an exhibitionist. What is your real question? Why are you dwelling on this. Perhaps, if you're not already in counseling, counseling could help you resolve this issue.
Yeah I've read this question before & still don't get it. Sounds like it was nice of him to watch you, but the rest I don't see it sorry.
Did it freak you out to see him naked?
Like catching your patents having adult time or something?
This might be more about you than him?
Really? We are at this again? No...what can he do when he is stuck with girls? Seems to me you couldn't stop looking. You decided not to use the girls locker room and not the uncle.
Sounds completely innocent. Your mother made him promise to not leave you alone and he didn't. You mentioned that he made sure he was turned away when showering and changing, I would think I true exhibitionist would want to "show it off". Unless something else happened in all the time you were together it sounds completely appropriate to me-
Though I think his decision to take into a men's locker room was not the best. You all could have showered at home. He wasn't trying to be an exhibitionist. What about other men in the locker room? In the future when you have an 8 yr old little girl think about how you would feel if she were taken to a men's room or a men's locker room. It is not the place for a little girl.
