I get the cliques, and all: I've seen it all my life. But what really hurts, and if a mom is in a clique: maybe you can shed light on this: if the moms don't like you, then your kid gets left out. Out of parties, gatherings, outing. All of it, that's just wrong, and unkind.
That's wrong. Most of the responses here are from people not in cliques: what is the viewpoint from the behavior from someone in cliques? Why are you in a clique? Where does that come from? Do you not stop and recognize your meanness?
I'm not in a clique, I won't let cliques stop me from volunteering or going on field trips, or saying "hello."
We have cliques in our neighborhood, and in the school. The school one is awful: moms will actually stand, with me in between at pick up time, and talk over my face as if I"m not there. They'll discuss what a fun weekend they had, and what their kids did together. Now, even at an early age, I knew it was rude to discuss things in front of the ones that weren't involved.
So, moms in cliques: are you like this b/c your moms were? Or do you just not care about people's feelings? Or are you really as awful as us non cliques moms think you are?
That's who I"d like to hear from, the other side.
M.: wonderful that you brought this up, I just suffer through on a daily basis at school, church, playgroups. It's difficult some days, but then I just stand up straighter and walk through the women. I read something once that was so funny: and I think of it often "There are few things that a good haircut and good posture can't fix."
Funny, anyhow: don't get too sad, M.: and don't let them rule the roost at school and church. Your kids need to see you involved. When you look back on your life, you don't want to see missed opportunities b/c of someone's mean spirited ways. Any decision you make, think "what will it mean 5 or 10 years from now."
Continue to greet the nasty moms with a smile: and don't let them "bully" you out of your children's lives. Good luck, sweetie... and don't be like the rest, but rise above the rest.