Well, I guess I'll chime in since we've experienced both and I'll have to politely disagree with a couple of the opinions below.
Our youngest is now a senior at a college prep private or independent school. She has been there since 1st grade and really doesn't know much difference since she only attended kindergarten (and preschool) in a public district.
Our son, now 22, started at the private school when he was in 6th grade. He was actually the reason we decided to move the kids to a private environment. Lets just say that he needed smaller classes and more structure. ;-)
We were in an amazing district and moved to another area of the city which was a different district but still highly rated. Probably the best district in Kansas. But by then we had already decided to give the private environment a try and it's now been 12 years.
I'll have to disagree that the private school environment does not offer diversity or that we are not part of a community - school or neighborhood.
- We are VERY involved and ingrained in our neighborhood even though our kids do not go to the neighborhood school. Part of it is that we are in a very social 'hood. We have neighborhood parties and BBQ's. As well as just private get togethers with certain neighbors.
- We are also very involved in our school neighborhood. I have chaired our school auction, twice, been a room parent, team mom for our daughter's softball team, VP of the Booster Club, and over all just a volunteer.
- So we have dear friends from our neighborhood community and dear friends within our school community.
I would also argue the fact that there is no diversity in a private environment. Our school is not Christian based and very diverse culturally as well as religious and spiritually. When our son was in HS, he often had the buds over to watch sporting events, or just to play cards. There were only 42 in his class, and just among the boys he had friends who were Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist, as well as Muslim. There were 2-3 African American kids and at least 2-3 that were mixed race. Because we do pay tuition (a lot as on person has already pointed out) there are people there who live in multi-million dollar homes, those whose parents are working their asses off for their kids to attend, and those on scholarship. This is just within 42 kids and I think that's pretty diverse.
I could also argue the fact that our kids don't have as much opportunity as in large public schools. I guess it depends on how you look at it. Since it is such a small school our kids can and do get involved in as much as they want or can handle. We have a top ranked debate and forensics team that includes kids who also play sports and may or may not be involved in school plays and musicals. Our sports teams do not cut nor are we a pay to play. If your kid has never played tennis and wants to give it a try, there is a place on the team. And again for a small team we offer girl and boy soccer, girl and boy tennis, girl and boy basketball, girl and boy golf, girl and boy swimming, baseball, softball, track and cross country. Different seasons of course.
Academics is where I personally know there is a huge difference between our school and the local public districts. When our son started in 6th grade he was a little behind in most of the subjects. I remember asking his English teacher at the time if we needed to get a tutor. She said no, because he was getting it. Plus it was tougher material because she was teaching these 6th graders what she used to teach in 8th grade at another local district.
When our daughter was in 6th grade, there was a little boy in her class whose mother taught 8th grade science at another local district. She was teaching her 8th graders the exact same curriculum her son was learning in 6th grade.
Even now in high school, our daughter is taking college level courses.
Like I said, our initial reasonings was our son. But it was the best move for our daughter as well. She is more on the shy side and would have been perfectly content to be a wall-flower. Being in a smaller environment, pulled her out of her shell.
I would make the same decision all over again. The only think I'd do different would be started our son there earlier so he could have had the same foundation our daughter did.
Now having said all that. . . . it is a private decision. It wasn't something we took lightly and did put a lot of thought into it. You are doing the right thing by starting the process early.