Taking Care of Some Else's Not So Good Kids

I understand the desire to want to help someone others. I was in a similar situation not so long ago, but, like you, I saw my daughter's behavior go downhill quick. I was keeping a child 2 years older than my daughter and saw behaviors in my daughter that I wasn't ready for yet. Not necessarily that they were terrible behaviors, I just wasn't ready for her or I to experience those before their time. You should do what is best for you, your children and the rest of your family. No one is going to take care of them or worry about their welfare better than you. If you feel talking to the mom will help, then give that a try, but I wouldn't know where to begin on that matter.

best of luck

best of luck

I use to be a home Daycare Provider for 5 years and though my daycare's name was Little Angels....my daycare parents dubbed it, BOOT CAMP for kids. I was very strict yet loving and more times then I'd like, I'd get a new kid in their because a parent referred them to me cause "I CAN FIX THEM" as they put it. I did "fix" them but let me tell you what, it's not a daycare providers responsiblity to instill some discipline into a child, it's their parents but together, it can be done providing the parent doesn't forget that they are "THE PARENT."

I'm going to tell you what I would have done in your case.

First off, you need to sit down with this Mother and tell her;

I really need you to help me out in order for me to help you out. Your children's behavior in my home is UNEXCEPTABLE! They aren't listening to me and once you walk in that door, what little good behavior I have gotten off of them, goes down hill cause Mommy's here. Either they straighten up, or you'll have to find someone else to care for them. Especially since my daughter has started picking up on their mistaken behavior and I won't allow it.

Now mind you, she may either ONE, get really offended and take her kids and never come back or TWO, apologize and work with you.

If you really want to help her, you MUST be honest with her. I had a parent like this and her child was TERRIBLE! When I told her I was terminating her contract after 3 months of hell, she cried and begged for another chance. Her son did a 180 degree turn and from their on started behaving.

Then you are going to set some rules in the house and you are not only going to sit them all down, including MOMMY (yes their Mother must listen too) and you are going to discuss it together.

Their is No Running in the house because you can get hurt, that is for outside time. You will respect my things because this is my house and I worked very hard to buy the things I have and if you break something, Mommy WILL have to replace it. You will respect me and my home and I will respect you. You will wash your hands before and after every meal, after picking your nose, sneezing and after playing outside. Toys will be shared and picked up after you are done playing with them before you can start playing with something else. Lunch time is at such time and then we nap. If you don't nap, you will sit quietly reading a book or doing a quite project on your own, respecting those that do want to nap. We do not hit, bite, punch, kick, or hurt anyone in any way. If you are hurt by someone you will come to ME and tell me and I will deal with it accordingly. TIME OUTS are no longer going to happen.(because they are not effective honey, let's be honest now) If you break the rules and do not do as I say, I will call your Mommy and you will go home for the rest of they day. Three strikes and you're out. I will not and don't have to tolerate mistaken behavior in my home. ALSO, when Mommy or Daddy pick you up, the rules still apply. Just cause they are here doesn't mean you stop respecting me or my home.

*Explain to Mommy that if their child is out of control you WILL call her to come pick them up* Mommy obvioulsy doesn't want to have to leave work for this so she will see to it that they behave. ;)

It's your house, your kid and your rules otherwise, out they go. Don't let anyone step all over you cause trust me, they will. Running a home daycare isn't easy and it takes someone with a spine to do it, trust me. I did it for 5 years and though rewarding, it's also very difficult.

Good luck. Feel free to contact me anytime.

Oh, and as far as your daughter goes, you sit down with her and tell her, that what these children are doing in not correct and that you will take her toys away if she doesn't behave. She would have to earn them back one by one with good behavior. It would help too if you make her the "naughty catcher" This is not tattle telling it's simple catching someone doing something wrong and saying, that is not nice. This will allow her to be Mommy's helper but at the same time learn to separate right from wrong in others thus keeping her from doing it too.

i was watching a friends baby in my home for a little while, but felt that i was being taken advantage of. she paid late and left her daughter here for hours when she and her husband were already home so that they could get some rest. i finally had to say that i had to stop. my children were getting less of my time because of it, and while i enjoyed the extra money, it was not worth it. if your daughters behavior is suffering from these other children, enough is enough.

I am a stay at home mom that also do Home daycare. I had this problem with a child and I gave him a month to ajust to being at someone elses house and to be able to follow the rules of the house, after that I just let the mother know that it is not working out and being here is not benifiting the child. Money My parents are suppose to pay every 2 weeks unless other arraingment was made I wouldn't give no more then a month because they will always be behind. good luck