Silly Wedding Woe...

Just go with it.
By the way that is the perfect day to get married- That is my wedding date- 10 years ago! good luck!

I would keep it as planned and hope for the best. Not much you can control about it... should all work out fine : ) If you change the date, likely your cycle will still be "off". Enjoy - what an exciting time.

Calm down! Stress will change your period super quick! Enjoy what the day is going to be about....there's not much you can do! Congrats on the wedding! Just have a blast no matter what!
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Are you actually counting the days between cycles? Or just watching the days on the calendar? I would figure out about how long my normal cycle is and use that as an indicator.

BUT...I also just wouldn't worry about it. Take a pamprim and some B6 to help with bloating and water retention. Use a tampon and a pad if you're flow is so heavy that you have to worry about your dress. As for the honeymoon...well, you're not the one who has to wash the sheets, right?

I, too, have major problems with any sort of hormonal birth control. I've tried enough and had enough bad side effects to convince me to never take it again.

Well, if you got pregnant before your wedding, you wouldn't have to worry about your period. Morning sickness might be a problem, but you never know.
I wouldn't worry about it. You'll be so excited about the wedding your cycle will be all over the place. June is a popular wedding month and you're going to start running into booking problems if you keep moving the date around. Some places you need to have reserved more than 6 months in advance or more. I can't remember where my cycle was 22 yrs ago. It just wasn't as important as marrying my sweetheart.

Hi R.---I'm guessing the best thing you can do is just roll with whatever nature throws at you. You know the old saying, 'You can't food mother nature.' So try not to stress too much as the stress will do as much as anything to foil your 'plans'. It is what it is. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

Forget the pill. Don't even worry about it. Your body is telling you something if you don't feel right on it. Again, it's not good to try and manipulate mother nature. Have fun! D.

Really? Allergic to all forms? How do you know you're allergic to all forms of them? There are so many... I think I'd still talk over that possibility with your ob/gyn.

You post made me think... we are supposed to get married May 28th, and if things stay on schedule, I'll be in the same position... but for me, I'm not that bothered by all the things you mention (migraines/cramps/bloating/extreme fatigue), so no biggie there... but the wedding night would kinda be compromised a little... but hey, it's not like we're virgins and this is our first time together, so no real biggie there either. Plus, I've recently discovered the Instead Softcup for period protection, and it is *phenomenal.* AND you CAN have sex with it in, with NO MESS. I promise... I tried it. ;) So look into that option, if you do end up with your period on your wedding day/night. You can leave them in for up to 12 hours with no risk of TSS, and they profess to not leak, which I've found to be true. I wore one on my heaviest day at an indoor waterpark recently, ALL DAY, with no leakage whatsoever. They are awesome. If you want more info, feel free to pm me. Or you can look them up online. Instead Softcup. :)

I promise you can move your date around and you will still get your period..

I had tried to plan this same way, so did almost all of my friends and it seems like everyone of us ended up with our periods on our wedding week.
Do speak with your Doctor and see what she can suggest that you try as a new birth control. There are a TON out there.

Otherwise in the long run, I promise it is not a big deal. Just purchase some of the new Tampax called "Ultra" they can hold a ton more than any other tampon on the market.. Of course start trying them now to see if they will work for you..

That does suck and I worry about my vacations with that because it is so unpredictable for me as well. It came on our 5 day trip to New Orleans 2 years ago! Go figure! But I'd keep the date as it is. Chances are if it is off now, you won't be able to plan around it not knowing when it will come. Enjoy your wedding and marriage!!

I was so stressed the few months before my wedding, I screwed up my cycle and ended up getting it early--it ended 2 days before the Big Day. I would call myself lucky in that respect, but the day BEFORE our wedding I had to buy a new dress (it was ruined by dry cleaners, and their unimaginable effort to fix it), and the day AFTER our wedding we got lost on the way to the airport and missed our flight to Greece (we still got to go, just a day later..a PITA nonetheless). Just relax, you will be fine :) Changing the date might be more stressful than dealing with your period anyway!

I wouldn't change the date. Stress will mess with your cycles, as can the change of seasons.

As for th wedding night, you're getting married, you have the rest of your lives together and if you talk to most married couples they will tell you that all they did on their wedding night was sleep because they were exhausted from the day.

Talk with your OBGYN about using the Pill for the next several months without taking the "inactive" pills. If you are not on the pill, considering using something else that will chemically regulate you for the next couple of months.

Stress wreaks havoc on your cycle, so try to relax as much as you can and don't change the date b/c of your period. Unless you are getting married by a friend in your back yard and ordering pizza (which is great if you are), it's probably not as simple as "picking a new day".

Have fun and if this is the WORST thing that happens on your wedding day then you are lucky! Our limo was late, my father and best man had the wrong tuxes and the reception hall ordered the wrong flowers. Things happen, but at the end of the day the important part is that you are married and get on with your life as a married couple!

EDIT: All of them? It may still be worth a conversation with your doctor. I know NOTHING about the Diva Cup, but it may be worth some research as I had a friend use it when she was in a wedding and said it worked pretty well.

talk to your OB. If you are on the Pill he can have you keep going on it without the week break to change your schedule around. That is what mine did with me. Good luck.

I'd keep the date. Our timeframe was limited, too. Just make sure you're extra protected that day and have fun. There are options for that night (use your imagination). There are bigger things to worry about and years ahead to make up for it if you feel you have to. :)

Can you go on the pill for a few months? You can continue taking it, so you don't get your period until you want to. I used to do it whenever a major event was going to be impacted. Good luck!

Hi R., this actually happened to me and I found out how simple it was to stop it AFTER the fact. I had mentioned to my doctor after returning from my honeymoon that my period had started THAT night of my honeymoon. She told me that all I had to do to avoid this was to skip the sugar pills of birthcontrol and just start the next pack of pills and I would have skipped my period. I'm not sure whether you are on birth control pills but if you are, then just skip the "period" week and start the next pack. If not, I'd talk with my doctor if I were on another type of BC and see what they suggest. Good Luck and congradulations on the up coming event. I'll have been married 26 yrs on the 15th of June. D.

Hi R., I know you're worried about this now, but by the time your wedding is actually here, with all that is going on, it'll probably be the last thing on your mind. I remember my wedding being such a whirlwind of family in town, friends, the rehearsal, getting the dress ready, getting to the church, the actual ceremony, etc. etc. There is SO much going on that you probably really won't even have time to think about it. Just make sure you have some tylenol or pamprin or whatever works for you to help cramps, and if you can get those out of the way, it probably won't affect your wedding at all. Also, as some others said, it shouldn't hinder the wedding night with your husband. There's a really good chance you guys will be too tired anyway! Have a fantastic wedding, and I think June 18th sounds like a great date.

girl, you are just spinning in circles! if you solve this problem you will immediately grab 3 more to stress over!
you really can't micromanage it all to this degree (at least not without birth control pills, which aren't an option for you.)
take a deep breath. the only plan you need to make is to keep your sense of humor intact and enjoy the day. it will NOT be perfect. it just won't. and if you let it get ruined by the things that don't go *right* you will deprive yourself of joy.
don't do that.
:) khairete
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Ooooh that does suck! It's something I never even thought of when I set my wedding date! (of course, my wedding was canceled when I found out I was prego. lol) Honestly, I would see about getting on a birth control pill to try and get it regulated before your wedding. I have seen advertisements for pills where you only get your cycle once every 3 months... maybe you could look into that? It seems like a silly reason to get on (or change) your birth control, but you are only going to get married once (hopefully) and you won't want your big day to be messed up by this. :P

I would double up on birth control pills, meaning taking the pack back to back to avoid it altogether, even if your not currently on bc you can start them in april to avoid a period for your wedding, once you get closer to your wedding date the stress may continue to throw you off

I started the pill three months before we got married so I could get regulated so I didn't get pregnant on our honeymoon. Well, my period wasn't supposed to start until 10 days after our wedding, but lo and behold, I woke up the morning of our wedding and was getting my period. I think it has to just do with the stress or whatever. Anyway, my husband to be didn't care. I was so disgusted and afraid to tell him, because I just thought that he would think our first time having sex would be so gross because I was on my period, but he absolutely didn't care.

All that to say, keep the date the same. You might change it and then still get it on your wedding day.

R.:

STRESS is a factor!! Calm down, take a deep breath.

Don't stress over this. You will be fine. it will be fine.

You guys have lived together for several years now, you have kids together...it will BE FINE!!!! Focus on other things other than this - it will be fine. You start stressing over this, then it will happen....breath, girl - breath!! you are good. really good. breath.....