C.K.
Hi R.,
Sounds like it has become routine...not fun for you, your daughter or the daycare provider. I think it is unusual that you have been going through this for 3 years, but if it has become a habit, maybe so. Maybe you need to just sit down with her and talk about it...most of my 3 year olds are capable of telling me why they don't like something. Have you tried to tell her why you need to go to work? Give her something to look forward to when you get off work...nothing big, just some one-on-one time, like a story.
Has the daycare provider talked to you about this...doesn't it bother her??? I'm still perplexed by it lasting this long...unless you are a softie and she knows it. Make your drop-offs quick and to the point...maybe she won't have time to get soooooo worked-up.
Good Luck!!!!
C.