Just Advice

I am so sorry that you are being put in this situation. No one has the right to tell you to get rid of your baby. I personally belive that since you already have a son whom you have managed to care for thus far you can handle providing love and care for second. You may want to share your feelings with your family and this childs father to help you decide what to do. I belive no matter what you chose to do you will manage. I wish you the best of luck and hope all goes well.

Honestly I have to tell you that the choise is up to you, not four family. If youbelieve that you can handle another child then go for it. If you dont then dont go through with the pregnancy or look into adoption. I would suggest that you speak to this baby's father though before you do anything. Even though this is mainly your decision it might help to hear what he has to say before you make any decision at all. Good luck and I hope this helped. If you ever want to talk about it or need more advice feel free to send me a message. Jen

Dear A.,

You have to do what YOUR heart tells you. If you want to keep your baby, there are agencies that will help you afford to. We have a 3.5 y.o. & a 7 month old. They are VERY ecpensive!;) But the joy they bring us far outweighs the struggles we have to overcome to provide for them.

There is always the possibility of adopption if you don't think you can afford to raise the baby. There are PLENTY of people out there who will be able to give your baby everything.

Please don't think thaat I am anti-abortion, because I'm not. I am pro-choice, but it doesn't sound to me like you want to terminate.

A.,

please dont have an abortion.... I am a 24 yr old single mother of a 3 year old boy, i know its difficult but if you cant keep another baby then at least put the baby up for adoption. That baby didnt decide to be here he/she doesnt deserve not to live. The love you experience for a child is the best feeling in the world as you already know. Let me know what you decide. I will be praying for your decision

Hi A.,

First, unless your familly is financially supporting you, this decision is yours alone. Are you financially and emotionally ready to support a second child? Was your goal to finish college and start a career before continuing your family? Has it been a tough four years supporting and raising your son? These are all questions you need to answer before making your decision. We all know that daddys aren't promised forever-so you need to always be prepared to raise your children by yourself. I am married with two sons and still I always think of what my plan would be if my husband and I were to divorce. So you need to have a plan. I do not know what your whole situation is- but if your family is helping to support you and your son then you need to take their advice into consideration. Abortion? I don't know what your feelings are about that. Is that a road you want to travel? Does that go against your values and beliefs? If not then it may be an option. Everyone is going to have their own opinion but no one has to face the consequences but you. So you need to make this decision alone. Feel free to write back if you need to talk or want to elaborate on anything. I hope I helped you a little. -D. C.

(((((HUGS))))) This is really tough to have pressure from your family but you have to go with your gut. You are the only one who will have to deal with any emotional repercussions you might have from an abortion not them. I would encourage you to consider adoption if you feel that you can't handle a child right now. There are so many wonderful loving couples that cannot have children on their own. Weigh all your options.

Good luck