How to Be Not Nervous?!!

is it PMS? Pay attention as to whether it is all the time or just two weeks preceeding your period. There are meds for this. Can you remove stress from your life? Have you ever tried meditation? I have a couple of good "natural" herbs that could help. Speaking to a doctor about a "anti-anxiety" is also an option. Don't ignore this. Being a mom is tough and you need all the help you can get to help maintain a peaceful home!

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You may want to see if there is a young teenager that can help you out after school for an hour or so. There are a lot of teenagers who love children and want experience, but may be too young to babysit on their own. Instead of babysitting, call it "Helper", since you will be home at the same time. Then, take that hour and have the Helper play with the children while you catch up the house, prepare dinner, go through mail, etc. You may pay her $5 a day, but it will be worth it! Ask your neighbors if they know anyone, or ask a local church.

Are you taking any time for yourself? I tend to get really irritable when I am getting cabin fever, and usually only realize it after I am biting off my husband's head and crying for no reason, and my husband will tell me why.

having two so close in age has got to be hard...I only have one so I can't truly identify...but hopefully I can still give some useful tips...

first, as a working mom myself I've realized the importance of mommy-time...I'm a much better mom if I have a little time to unwind myself...make it the same time each day so your kids can get in the habit of it with you...during that time they are to play on their own and not bother you...make the time short at first...I'm up to 15 minutes now! I usually read or play bejewelled online haha...make sure the kids have gone potty beforehand and have a snack if necessary...

the other thing I have found helps is when I feel especially frustrated I just laugh...I know it's probably a sign of madness but when I'm full body wrestling my three year old to get him to put his scraped hand under the sink faucet while he screams his head off...it actually IS pretty amusing if I take a step back and look at myself :) plus laughing just diffuses the situation like screaming never did :)

if all else fails just pray...and try to set your kids up to succeed...it feels much better to spend a day praising than yelling and punishing (but it takes the same amount energy unfortunately)

Good luck! and you're a great mom! don't forget that ok!

Just try to remember that your reaction and behavior sets the tone in the home. Take a deep breath, remember that this too shall pass, and try to enjoy every day with your children. They will grow out of this age so fast! I know that it is hard when your husband is gone (mine travels alot on business), but try to plan lots of fun activities to enjoy with them (don't worry about messes. You can always clean up later). Take them to the park, play in the yard, finger paint, read, etc. Seize the day, and live it like it is your last!

Take a good look at your kids... Are they TRULY ready to potty train?

Most boys are closer to 3 1/2 when they are... Most girls are OVER 2 closer to 2 1/2...

My hubby tried to get me to "train" our 2nd child before our 3rd was born (he was ALMOST 3) I have to say I almost lost it! There is no forcing that issue. lol Now with our 3rd (our 4th is due in a few weeks) I am not worrying about it AT ALL... Until he starts telling us he has to go... Then I will "train " him...

If the potty training is stressing you out then stop. Encourage them, but do not make it manditory...

Also... Mommy time is a must. AND MOMMY AND DADDY time is essential... You must grow the relationship with daddy and the kids will bloom because of it.

If you find yourself yelling... Put yourself on time out for a few seconds... STOP! close your eyes. Breathe thru your nose deeply 3 times and calm down. Fix the voice and try a new way. If you allow yourself to escelate the kids will go up in volume also.

Schedule!!!!! Make a schedule. The kids will adapt to it and will soon be telling YOU whats next on it. (Make lists of what you do daily, and weekly. Write them out and assign times) Make sure you are sticking to a STRICT bed time. Kids go to bed mommy can then sit down and relax a bit. Take a bubble bath, read a book, etc...

Does daddy maintain a cleaned up house? Or do you have to come home after daddys "play time" and clean up and cook, etc... Divide chores with him... He can do laundry and grocery shopping etc if he doesn't already...

Reprioritize what is truly important in your life and cut out the rest... Make time for walks with the kids and physical activity for yourself...

Good luck and get yourself some flowers!!! :-) I always feel better when there are flowers in the house...

There is no easy answer to this. It's easy to say just relax when it's not you in the situation. We've all been through it.
My best advice is.....when they are driving you nuts, don't take it personally. They are just kids doing what kids do.....don't stress and worry. It's all a process and it's going to take time. Remember to praise them when they do it right, and be encouraging when they don't. It will happen, and then there will be another challenge.
Don't sweat the small stuff.

You have a very full schedule! What is good is that your children don't have to go to daycare.

Would it help to focus on the 3 year old getting potty trained and wait until he is successful with it and then focus on your 2 year old being potty trained? Also, when people are stressed it is good to reach for the healthy foods. For example protein, fresh fruits/vegetables, water and stay away from white flour, white sugar, cafeeine and alcohol. The last four will make you more nervous and increase your stress.

Maybe just sit down with them and play a game for an hour or so. Let the housework and laundry go and relax with your children.

To make it easier and to fit into your routine, make 1-2 changes per month. Doing things slowly will not overwhelm you and becomes habit.

I wish you well!

One thing you need to learn is to Breath deep into your abdomin and release and to think in your head. Is ths something to flip on???? Are you making a big deal out of spilt milk. Than breath more. Don't set yourself up for stress. So when you get home from work and hubbie leaves than you sit down for a minute while the kids are playing or napping. Take a min to relax after abotu 10 to 15 mins start your night. Maybe make up a plan the weather is getting nice. SO maybe make dinner than take tem to the park for an hr tan come home and get them ready for bed sit and read something to them. When they go to bed you than clean up and rest. But breath througheverything and remember there little. It can be stressfull being by your self with two little ones. Your husband does it before you get home. If you gonna yell walk away and take 10 deep breaths before going back to deal with the situation. good luck !!

I think it has to do with being the end of winter! Just a couple more days (hoping!!) and you will be able to get outside. Little ones are so creative when they can run and play and dig in the dirt. Plus you can always pack them in the car and go to one of many various parks - sometimes there, you can find other kids and moms like you! And feed the ducks while you are there. I just think its hard being the "mom in charge" for the entire evening having worked outside the home all day. Take it easy on yourself. Be creative with dinners - keep it simple - grilled cheese sitting on a picnic blanket in the living room is a great choice and the kids will love it.