There is a difference between fear and common sense. Just because something has always been done, doesn't make it right. Woman have been raped since the beginning of time. So should we walk around in dark places by ourselves at 3 am to prove we don't live in fear?
Woman have been beat by their husbands, minorities kept as slaves, bosses mistreating their employees, and thousands of common miscarriages of justice could be listed. Should we allow these social ills to continue just because they have been happening for thousands of years?
So why not make choices based on avoiding certain pitfalls of life? Isn't the whole point of living in the USA that we have amazing freedoms and choices that we can make about how we want to live our lives?
What's the point of giving birth if we are just going to throw our kids to the wolves? Do we have them in order to put a notch on our belts, parade them in front of our old classmates and show them off to our peers? Or do we have children to further our human race and for some of us, to live out God's plan for our lives?
You are right about one thing. Fear can be a destructive emotion. We were given fear to warn us of something that can or will or is hurting us. We need to overcome fear by making right choices and by realizing that God is in control. Without him I'd be a fearful mess!