Family Friend dying...don't Know What to Do.

I also lost my mother..five years ago. I totally understand hating the whole "I'm sorry" routine.

But it might help your uncle to just simply be there for him. Provide that support that he needs. Maybe help him to focus on his own emotions by doing small errands or chores that are menial, but necessary (taking out the trash, doing dishes, etc). You can also try asking him how he is doing..or letting him know that if he ever needs you..that you are available.
I wish I had more concrete advice for you, but I think death is one of the most awkward situations we can be put in. Best of luck.

If i were your uncle i'd suck in every last minute to spend with my dying friend...so if i were in you i'd help your uncle by relieving him from some of his daily chores. It's a very concrete way to be there for him.

Do what you can do to give your Uncle the time he needs to spend with his friend. When the time comes and it's all said and done, all you can do is give him a big hug and let him know that you do feel his sense of loss and let him grieve.
You sound like a sweet niece :)
We all die eventually tho, so we shouldnt let thinking about it or losing someone we love destroy us.

I don't think it's really about what you say. Just being there is showing your support. You are doing great. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

It sounds like you are doing just fine. Try not to worry about not doing enough. You are doing great. Just being there for him, and listening to him unload on you is a job in itself. He knows you are there for him, and that you are open and willing to do stuff.
If you are still wondering, just ask him. Ask him, is there anything at all I can do to make this situation easier for you? Maybe you can call people, organize food for family, etc.
Just ask and im sure that he will tell you.

Best wishes.

Tell him how much you will miss him. Be sure to call your uncle every other day. He's going to really miss his friend. To your Uncle tell him there will never be another friend quite like the man who is dying but other people will love him and treasure him. And, tell your uncle how important his is to all of you.

It's great that you want to be there for your uncle. Can you get them together at the hospital or wherever and take a photo of the two of them together for one last time sake? This might be the last memo he has of his friend. You could frame it and give it to him at a later date.

You have my prayers for strength to help your uncle with his journey.

Rock on girlfriend.

The other S.

My sister lost her husband recently. The best thing I can do is to say "I'm sorry", to understand that loss takes a long time to grieve, and a big one here, at least for my sis-- to understand when phone calls aren't returned. This IS a big one. My sis is totally po'ed when people call and say "why haven't you called? did I do something wrong?"

I'm sure this is going to hit your uncle in a lot of different ways, at different times.

For what it's worth, it's likely that the friend's wife of 40 years couldn't emotionally suss up the energy to make the necessary calls. Grief is paralyzing. My sister's husband was in a coma for a week, and I never got a call. Other than the call that he'd passed (in October), she's never returned calls-- I just catch her when I can. I'm not complaining, but all that to say, don't take it personally.

And I'm sorry for your loss, too.

H.