Do I Need to Bring a Present to a Bachelorette Party???

Updated on March 16, 2011
H.X. asks from Los Angeles, CA
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My cousin and i haven't spoken in 10 years, but last year, we've 'rekindled" our relationship. Now shes getting married, there's a bachelorette party, and i was wondering, do people bring presents to bachelorette parties??? there was an engagement party, there will be a bridal shower, and then, of course, the wedding...
i dont mind buying her something cute and 'sexy', but i dont wanna be the only one who brings something, but i also dont want to be the one who doesnt bring a present if everyone else does...
I dont know her friends, so its not something i'd feel comfortable calling and asking...
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K.G.

answers from Boca Raton on

I've been to several bachelorette parties and have never brought a present.. Nor, has anyone else... "IF" you were in the "bridal party" and planning the party, then you would be in charge of helping pay for the night... Normally when I go to a bachelorette party, I am told ahead of time if I have to chip in for the limo, dinner, stripper, anything that would pertain to the bride to be....

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

A cute, painted (frilly) martini glass?

Plus, I'd rather the the only O. that DID bring a gift than the only O. who didn't!

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M.R.

answers from Chicago on

Yes! I've never been to a bachelorette party where gifts were not given. It doesn't have to be something sexy or anything. Maybe even something girly like a gift card for a manicure or something. Wouldn't you rather be the only one to bring a gift, rather than the only one not to bring one? "Delish" makes fun wine/cocktail glasses that the bride-to-be can use to drink all night then keep it as a keepsake.

Weddings are expensive, for everyone. We just got done with 2 last October and yikes! Have fun!

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J.G.

answers from San Antonio on

yes. lingeree or something of the sort.

If you're real nervous about gift/no gift situation, bring a big purse and wrap the thongs or whatever in a small package that will fit inside your purse. If everyone else brings a gift, you can whip out your gift too. If you were the only one, noone will know b/c you kept it hidden in your purse.

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M.C.

answers from Pocatello on

if you get her something, get something small. (if you are really daring you could get a body chocolate kit or something hahahaha!) My bachelorette party followed my bridal shower and so I only received gifts for the shower... not the party. Who is hosting the bachelorette party? If you can, ask the host whether you are expected to bring gifts. She should be able to tell you. If you REALLY don't want to call anyone up, get a gift that you can stick in your purse and you'll be covered either way! If no one brings gifts just save it and give it to her quietly after the party or when everyone is distracted. If people DO bring gifts... then act like you knew all along!

These things are often hard to tell unless you ask- just like some bachelorette parties have male strippers and beer and "man shaped" pasta, and others are very mild affairs where you drink a few mamosas and joke around.

Good Luck!
-M.

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L.M.

answers from Seattle on

yes.. something little it is the thought that counts.. maybe something from bath and body works.. victoria secret.. or macys has great sales and really cute night gowns that are fun like calvin klein or dkny.. I have gotten cute camisoles for 10 dollars.. by the time I use all my macys coupons.

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S.B.

answers from Los Angeles on

To be on the safe side you can buy a gift card and keep it in your purse. If others bring a gift then you have something too. And if not, you can go back and treat yourself to something cute! ;)

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T.R.

answers from New York on

I just went to my sister-in-laws bachelorette party and no gifts were given. Of course her being the bride didn't pay for a single thing and all the bills were divided by everyone attending (minus the bride). Since I was family, I did get her a very sweet card. If you feel you are close enough now to get her something, she will be so happy to receive it, but don't feel obligated at all. You being a part of her night is most likely the best gift of all! Good luck and have lots of fun ;)

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K.C.

answers from Los Angeles on

No, you don't need to bring anything to a bachelorette party. Sometimes, a portion of the party will be a lingerie shower, in which case you should bring something, but usually the host/party planner will tell you. If no one mentions it to you, you don't have to bring anything.

T.N.

answers from Albany on

I would think yes, bring a present, unless it was specifically requested to not.

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B.P.

answers from New York on

Usually, you are expected to chip in in some way if only to buy the bride a drink (she should not pay for anything while out) or pay her entrance into a club, or pay for her dinner. It depends on what you are doing. You are not expected to bring a real present but something small and funny/sexy would be ok.

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M.M.

answers from Dallas on

Absolutely yes! I have never been to a bachelorette party where there weren't gifts - albeit gag gifts for the most part, but definitely gifts!

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F.S.

answers from Pocatello on

I agree with the answer that said get a gift card a Victoria's Secret or something and if others brought gifts pull it on out and say here and if not go get yourself something fun!! Have fun...

Having said this I have had experiences with both. I have gone without a gift and when I was organizing or in the bridal party I brought gifts. They were just fun almost gag gifts.

K.M.

answers from Chicago on

From my experience gifts are not given at the bachelorette they are for the Bridal Shower and the Wedding ... you could if you wanted give a 50 visa card to go towards her bar tab for the night, if that is what the plan is.

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