My hubby;s best friend is getting married and both he and our daughter will be in the wedding. I do not know the bride very well, but she is very nice. I declined the invite to her bachelorette party because it was very expensive. I have a friend who is in the exact same position and she is not going either and asked if we should still send a gift. It happens that her bridal shower is the same day, and I AM going to that so I will be bringing a shower gift already. Is a separate bachelorette party gift expected from those who don't attend? I know they're often goofy things anyway, although I would purchase a nice gift set like Philosophy's "The Bride" set if I do. Thanks!
Thanks everyone. I have only been to a couple of bachelorette parties, including my own, and small gifts were given to the bride at each one, so I thought that was the norm. But since I'm not going, I have decided to just give a shower gift.
I agree with the other 2 posts. If you were going to the party you could buy a round of drinks, but bachelorette parties are not gift-giving occasions. Don't worry about it.
I have never heard of a bachelorette party gift! I know you give a gift for the shower and then one also at the wedding, but ANOTHER gift at the party?! Usually, the bride shouldn't have to pay for anything at the bachelorette party so wouldn't that be good enough? At my bachelorette party, no one gave me a gift, they just paid for me all night (covers, drinks, etc) and made sure I had a great time. I know different regions have different traditions for weddings, so maybe it's different for you Illinois than here in PA.
A nice bottle of tequila!
I don't think there is a gift required for the bachelorette party. If you are already giving a gift for the bridal shower, I think you are good. I could be
wrong though. If I were the bride I wouldn't expect gifts at the bachelorette party-
I wouldn't bring 2 gifts. I thought the shower was for gifts and the party was to go out and celebrate for the wedding.
Bachlorette gifts are usually silly hats and buttons and such for the bride to wear during the party, liquor and paying for a round of appetizeres/drinks. if you are NOT attending the bachlorette party don't worry about sending anything.
I have been to many bachelorette parties (still always a bridesmaid LOL) and never has anyone gotten a gift for it. A bachelorette party is when the bridal party and friends treat the bride to a night out or weekend away. Each person chips in for the cost of the bride in addition to paying for themself. That is considered the gift.
You do not need to bring a gift for a bachelorette party, and that is good that you are not going. Went to a wedding last week and on a shoestring it still cost a couple of hundred dollars andwe shop cheap~ We needed clothes and the gift and so on, wow...As far as the shower goes, it is a gift and I have brought gifts that may not cost millions, but they are wrapped beautifully and these people do not pay my bills. In fact I donated for another shower not long ago and didn't get a thank you note even. Now that I'm rambling, so what's with people texting thank yous...my mother would be horrified.
