Child up Crying All Night After She Has Been at Daycare

My guess is her back molars are coming in and the discomfort is waking her up. Molar teething is bad... I don't think it has much to do with her childcare. That's coincidental. She might feel bad (from teething) and be extra clingy/sensitive.

She may be teething or coming down with something. If she's happy when you pick her up and you don't see anything wrong with her, I wouldn't attribute the crying/up all night thing to her daycare/sitter situation. If it continues, you should take her to the doctor. She could even have an ear infection -sometimes they happen WITHOUT a fever! I didn't think that was possible, but we've had two occurrences of that with my youngest. Did you give her ibuprofen to see if she would calm down? Just a change in routine can mess little ones up for a day or two as well. Sometimes babies/toddlers just have a restless night like the rest of us!

First off there is always an adjustment period. Some are shorter and easier than other so definately give it some time unless you see warning flags of some kind.

Is she not used to being around a group of kids? She could be over or under stimulated (sometimes that can be a fine line). My daughter used to go to a home daycare and when there was older kids she was great but once she was the oldest she was a bit bored and came home still needing that stimulation (both mental and physical) and then had trouble settling down. When my cousin would watch her for me she was OVER stimulated...was good all day but had horrible behavior and couldn't settle down either. She now goes to a preschool and most days it is much better (she is a bit bored but since she is only 4 and won't be 5 until Dec, she can't start Kindergarten until Sept 2012 unless they let her start early).

I would put money on your daughter crying in the night and starting at a new baby-sitter's are totally unrelated. You said she's coming down with a cold, it could be that she's also teething. If this was related to the sitter & she had been through some crazy traumatic thing, I would imagine she would act up when you brought her in the morning, not in the middle of the night. Her sleeping and eating schedule are most likely just a little off & that in combination with a cold or new teeth would cause anyone to lose some sleep I would think.

As a home daycare provider, I have to ask why you think the issue has something to do with daycare? A 15 month old can have any number of issues, you stated she is coming down with a cold, maybe this is the cause, she could be teething, ear infection etc etc and since she isn't a great sleeper to start with, coming down with anything will make it worse. But remember, communication with your daycare provider is key. Call and talk with her, maybe she can share what their day was like, did she sleep well there, eat okay, play okay.... keeping in mind there will be an adjustment especially since this is the third childcare arrangement in only a few months, and 3 days a week is going to take longer to adjust. Definitely talk with her and don't freak out thinking it is something going on there until at leaat a month has passed.

I would say, NO, you don't need to give it week or two. You need to do at least one if not two unannounced drop ins the next time you leave her with this sitter. I know - defeats the purpose of day care but you need to be doing that with any new situation anyway. Use her on a day that you don't need her (i.e., a non-work day) so you can do this.
there are a lot of things that could be going on to cause this behavior. some she should adjust to but some are cause for immediate removal. I said the same thing with my oldest in our first care situation and should have realized he was telling me in the only way he knew how that things were seriously not right. after a week of no sleep, I did multiple drop ins in one day and figured out what was really going on. The first week, she was waiting for my drop ins and then once we'd left, her behavior was changing.....
So, listen to your daughter and your gut and check this out asap. Just because she's the wife of a friend doesn't mean she's right for you.
good luck!

Sounds like a couple of things going on. Teething is a biggie she is at the age for molers. But it also sounds like she might be hungry. Also you might want to start the transition to her own bed if your co sleeping. she may just turn out to be a restless sleeper and sometimes one restless sleeper can cause the whole family to be awake when there is no need. doesn't sound like it is anything at all to do with the sitter.

My Son did the same thing at around 13-14 months old, with the same babysitters he had had for a while. I was worried too, because it seemed like if I left him for more than a couple of hours in the day, he would be more fussy and wake a lot at night, crying and screaming. I was actually debating letting one of the sitters go, but then all of a sudden it just changed. He's 16 months now and is sleeping much better regardless of whether he's been with me or a babysitter or at playgroup. So I think it was just a developmental phase. (btw, I didn't fire that babysitter and now it seems like she's his favorite!)

I think you are making way too many quick conclusions off very little information (easy to do especially with first time mom vigilance kicking in).

The only waking concerns I would have is if she is napping too much at the sitters...which I highly doubt if she has many children.

My guess is she is teething and/or has a cold. Which would totally cause the exact symptoms you are mentioning...and she is the right age for teething issues.

If she is fine when you pick her up and seems to like the sitter...those are way better signs at reading the situation than how she sleeps, or if she is hungry hours later. Watch her and give it some time.

Definately give it about 2 weeks to adjust. Kids need time to get used to change.........:) Hang in there!

Whenever my daughter had a big transition in her life (new home, new daycare class, etc) she was fine during the day but up all night. She clearly works stuff out in her sleep. I'd give the transition a couple of weeks before you start freaking out. Good luck.

She may be grieving for her lost daycare provider. Even though it seems like a small issue and time to us, it is a huge part of their little lives. They do bond with whoever is taking care of them. It is almost like a death to them when they lose their caregiver. I have heard it said that research is showing that children who change daycare providers as littles end up not being able to bond later as adults. They stop bonding because it hurts too bad to lose that person. And, the daycare industry has the highest turn over rate of all jobs. It's sad what it is doing to the children. Please know that I am not trying to make you or anyone else feel bad. I know that some people must have someone else watch their children. But, there is a price to pay for everything. I'm afraid the children are paying it in this way.

I agree with Ellen M. . . . trust your instincts.

I truly believe that God gives a mother strong instincts for a reason - it's to keep our babies safe.

Of course God gives us logic too, so it could be that something else is causing the problem. But if I was going to have my children in childcare then I would do what Ellen suggests (unannounced drop-ins).

Good luck.

I would say don't do anything in haste before you think this through..so many things could be going on.
It sounds to me like she could be teething or coming down with something. Is she drinking and eating enough for the sitter during the day?
It could also be the change of environment - she might have gotten attached to the previous babysitter, it doesn't take them long to get attached to a caregiver.

You also mentioned more children are now in the picture -- that means more germs and it also means less individual attention. Just some things to think about.
I would give it a week for her to adjust and in the meantime try to get a good understanding of how they spend the day together - activities, nap times, meals etc. You should have the freedom to drop-in anytime unannounced.
If you are still concerned after a week, you might want to have a one-on-one with your sitter and maybe a trip to the pediatrician.
All the Best!