K.,
No! He is right at the age that separation anxiety is kicking into high gear. Do you really want 5 days of the heart wrenching crying and handing over of your child if you don't have to? Take a step back and read about separation anxiety. It is something that all children have to go through, some more than others. Even with twins they react differently. One of my twin boys had no problem leaving me for a stranger(to him) where his brother would cry and cry. I must say that I am not a proponent for much day care or full time preschool and my 16 yr. twins are in Honors and Gate classes with a well rounded schedule of sports and drama.
The success of your drop offs to day care are all up to you. Here is my advice.
Before hand show your son the calendar with day care time marked with a smiley face.
Talk to him about how you are going to school and why.
Tell him how you chose this day care and how much fun he will have with the other children. Talk to him about all the toys that they have that aren't at home. He will only be able to play with them there.
If the day care provides snack talk about how neat it is to be able to eat somewhere other than home. Is there a special place to eat snack or lunch? Bring anything special to his attention so he will look for it next time he goes there.
If you communicate that you are in this together it may help him in time to calm down easier.
Possibly go by your college classes on an off day and show him where you are when he is having fun at day care. If you are able to maybe sit down in an empty class for as long as possible to show him how quiet and boring your time away from him is.
The morning of day care do not be rushed, put extra effort into having everything ready the day before. Get there early so that you can spend a few relaxed minutes snuggling and walking around the day care. Pointing out all the things that you had talked about. Do not sit down or he will think that you are going to stay. Even if he is crying in your arms just love him but hand him over as calmly as possible, give him a kiss and say goodbye. Do not hesitate because he is crying or he will learn if he cries that you will not leave him.
Talk with the day care provider to spend some extra time holding him and try to help with some interaction between other children or just with a puzzle or book. Have her note how long it takes him to calm down (although if she wants him there more hours to make more money she might embellish on this information).
When you return to pick him up be calm and if possible watch him for a few moments as he plays and let him "find" you there as he looks around. Be prepared for him to be angry with you at this time for a while. Even though he was perfectly happy moments before, all of a sudden he will see you and start crying. He is saying "How could you leave me here?" and that he is not happy that he is not in control of that.
Just pick him up and reassure him that you did miss him but that you are happy that he had such a good time. Be as matter of fact as possible and he will learn that he does not have to get upset before and after child care time.
Enjoy the days that you do have with your son. Try to get help with family or friends for studying time. Maybe trade play dates so you can have a morning or afternoon for school work.
I have not been a paid child care provider but I have cared for many children through friends(4 children;18,16,16,5), church (Children's Director, teacher, nursery care, Midweek and Sunday programs) and as a Children's Leader at BSF intl. for 5 years(2-5 yr. olds). I can only remember 2 children/babies that were inconsolable after 10-15 minutes and those parents were called in and both were either getting over something or coming down with something.
Be confident with you child care provider and if you are not confident then look for another. I know that is not easy but it is well worth it. Maybe request info. on another provider here at Mamasource. She should work with you in this time (it will not last very long if handled correctly) not try to wrangle more days.
Hope that helps,
Evelyn