Sort of echoing others, but as a therapist I had to put in my two cents! When you call a potential therapist, you can ask them what their approach to counseling is. We all have different ways of doing things- some will do more listening than talking, some do more challenging you by asking questions and suggesting things. Ask them their approach and explain what you are looking for. You should have a pretty good idea by the end of that phone call whether this person is a good fit for you.
Once you choose someone and are working with them, it is SO helpful for you to give feedback. We are not mindreaders, so we do what we do thinking we're helping. If you feel like they aren't listening enough or you don't find the interaction helpful, we really do like that feedback. You won't be hurting our feelings. For me, I know I do things based on the way I was trained, but clients have said things like they were hoping to be able to 'vent' more before getting into solutions. That's wonderful for me to hear because I can certainly do that. What I don't want is for someone to leave feeling like I offered no advice, but if you aren't ready for that step, I need to know that in order to help you more. And vice versa, maybe you do just like me to tell you what I think and 'get on with it already'. Again, not a mindreader and I love hearing what you think.
The more interactive you are, the better. Lots of us do ask periodically if what we are doing is helpful. We're not fishing for compliments, we really want to know.
Good luck, and feel free to message me if you'd like.