You really need to be honest with yourself.
Search your heart.
Marriage counseling is just like any other goal.
Deciding if you want to graduate from college, how hard are you willing to work?
Losing weight, what are you willing to do? How far would you go?
Fighting a major disease? Willing to try anything, or know your limits?
There are no right or wrong answers, it is totally up to you.
My husband and I years ago were done. We just could not continue being married to each other another moment.
We were exhausted, and sick of each other.
We were encouraged to just try marriage counseling.. We really did not ant to did not have the energy.. And sure enough after the second session decided we are done.
We sat down and started planning how we would break everything apart. Divide everything, tell every one.. etc.. after about 2 hours of this, we realized, we had not argued, had not yelled, had not attacked each other.. We had learned to speak with each other and really listen to the other.
And so we decided to give our marriage a few more weeks. Then a few more months.. It has now been 29 years since then and even though he gets on my last nerve sometimes.. And I am not a prize myself. We love respect and want each other to be happy.
We are not climbing all over each other all of the time, but we are very much in love and want the best for the other.
So yes, Counseling can help and it may not be the way you expect, but if you are at least putting the effort to even try, at least you will be able to say, we tried everything, even marriage counseling and everything that the therapist suggested even if it does not work out.