What Makes You Choose to Become Family Friends with One Family, but Not Another?

Usually for us, it's whether or not the family is receptive to being friends with us. The problem I run into a lot is that people can be very cliquish and not interested in developing new friendship outside of their already established social circle.

It depends who you click with... and/or are not annoyed with. LOL

For me, well I'm an observer... I am friendly and social... I can talk with anyone. But I just 'know' who I mesh with or not.
So I go by my instinct. And it has worked out.

Parents of your kids friends, can become friends too. I have lots of good friends I met that way. Via my Daughter's school.
Or, any hobby groups etc. because then, you know you have something in common, already.

Just mingle.... even at local parks, the "regulars" get to know each other while the kids play...and/or your kids play with other kids. Then if they float your boat, you just ask if they want to meet up at other places.... that you have common interests in.

And sure, Churches are good social mixers too. But just find one that suits you... and by the vibes of the people....

Ultimately to answer your question... I go by my instincts.... and by what kind of person/character they are. That way, I have been lucky enough to find nice normal good friends... not crazy people. LOL

all the best,
Susan

I took my time making friends when we moved to our current town. I knew what kind of people I did not want to hang around with. I met some, they were not my type of families. Then finally I found like minded families. They did not know each other so we are started going to each others homes. I have been close now with 3 families. I wanted also to be friends with women who I had lots in common with. I do not drink so it was important not to hang around those who drank a lot. Its ok to drink, but I did not want someone who drank all the time. Family oriented women, married with children. We have such a fun time when we are all together. I hope you find families that you want to be friends with. It didn't happen over night and I did drop a few who were not my type after getting to know them.

Both my husband and I have to click with them...him with the man and me with the woman for it to work. And we found our friends through our kids and their activities mostly.

BTW can anyone tell me what the pp met by hora sp?

Gosh in our neighborhood when someone new moves in we all try to go by and say hi! Whoever gets there first, tries to warn, I mean welcome them to the "Hood", hee, hee..

We also let them know when we get together for events and invite them over.. We actually have not done this in a while since lots of our kids have grown up, but it was very easy when we had young kids.. We got into a fun habit of each friday gathering in one driveway that was nice and long and we would bring snacks and beer or wine and let the kids play and play..

We also did lots of cookouts and pot lucks..

You could even start this on your own by being out in front of your home while the kids play and be sure to wave to other people as they arrive from work, or on Sat mornings sit outside while the kids play, you can read the paper while having coffee, again say good morning to the people going out for their paper.. Wave to the people out for their morning walk, run and bike running.. See if their is a neighborhood association.. Become involved..

We ended up being very good friends with lots of fa,ilies and olso some of the older couples.. We offer to feed their pets or watch their homes when they go on vacations.. And we ask them for help too.

Be yourselves and be friendly.. People are also looking for new friends and good neighbors..

For us, friends that become family, well you cant just make that happen! Most of my family has been friends and it just is what happens when it clicks! How to find these people, well my second mother was actually the woman who babysat me from 3mo-11yrs. She was one of the short list of telling when I was preggers and made sure to see her when I went back to cali during my pregnancy. My besties are my son's aunties and daddy's besties are uncles. Right now I am bonding with people thru the community choir I am involved in and my son might have some new "grandmas" in his life, but you have to go out and do the things you love and start finding people you love, it's kind of like dateing!

I don't happen to have this, do lots of moms??? really hard to find people that have siliar parenting, plus similar interests for both hubby and me. I'm interested in response.

hi B., we are in denton as well :) we have been here about 4 years, we have a few family friends, but i stay home with our kids and my husband doesn't have a lot of coworkers, so our opportunities to meet people have been kind of limited. we finally found a church that we love earlier this year, i would love to have you and your family join us tomorrow or some other sunday. we attend st. david of wales episcopal church and we LOVE it. we have found that it's tough to get to know our neighbors, most of them are either retired, and thus much older than us, or around our age, but both parents working and busy busy busy. how old are your kids? my boys are 4 and 7, my little girl is 1. oh, we will be at the fall festival at LA Nelson Elementary from 6-9 tonight, it's a very inexpensive event that is open to the community, we'd love to have you join us. if you're interested in church or just hanging out sometime, send me a private message - we have encountered the "our social group isn't taking new members" thing ourselves, it's hard!

I would just visit different churches and maybe check to see if they have:

Married Couples ministries
Family outings, movie day, barbecues, etc.
Missionary work
Choir
New members classes

Hopefully this is a good start. I noticed that you are from Denton, TX, when I visit Dallas I didn't want to leave because of the southern hospitality. I met quite a few people there within a week. I believe you won't have a problem. Lastly, just be yourself and I'm sure someone will recognize you.

hora sp? and attitude commonalities etc mostly hora