Hi Mamas!
We have nieghbors, a couple, who we have been friends with for the past two years. We hang out and have dinner, etc. atleast once a month. Well, the husband talked to my husband and said they might seperate and divorce. I am not really close to the wife, I mean, I like her and enjoy her company occasionally, but we just don't click, I guess. She is very loud and outspoken, I am more quiet and reserved. I am not going to side with either one, because, I feel it is not really our business, but I don't know how to bring it up to her. Should I wait until she tells me, I don't want to seem that I don't care, because I do and would help her or him out, as far as if they need someone to talk to, but I don't want to get really involved.
Thanks!
Just to let everyone know, she does know, she kicked him out for one night last week. They have had problems for the last about year or so. She is trying to find somewhere to live, cuz he will keep the house.
Don't say a word! And when she does bring it up, do exactly what you are thinking and stay out of it. Listen and be sympathetic but don't say anything bad about the hubby. Because if they get back together you'll be the bad guy for bad-mouthing *her* husband lol.
Don't bring it up at all. If she does then ok. You are a wise person not to get involved in this mess. If you do, you'll come out as part of the scapegoat. Not pretty. I wouldn't even offer myself to lend an ear. I know that sounds harsh but I'm not a therapist and if your not close to her then why open that can of worms. Divorce is truly an ugly thing and people involved need healthy guidance from someone outside any emotional/personal involvement.
C.
I'd wait for her to bring it up. Does she even know?
I wouldn't say anything unless she brings it up to you. Besides if you bring it up you might open a can of worms you wished you never had OR it might make her uncomfortable.......
Take in consideration that they are your neighbors not close friends, and either way it is their business. If you want to help or lend a hand, just wait until he or she brings it up. If any of them doesn't tell you anything, just leave it there.
I would wait for her to bring it up.When and if she wantd to tell you she will.
Dont get involved. If she wants to talk, listen. But seriously, dont offer advice.
You have your own answer. Don't talk to her unless she brings it up.
I would wait for her to bring it up too. If she seems really down or something is obviously wrong, you can ask if she's ok, but I wouldn't say more than that....
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Just don't say anything unless she does.
It is a private matter.
If she asks 'why' you didn't say anything, just say that you wanted to respect her privacy.
Wait. You wouldn't want to know that other people are talking about your business.
It sounds like the men are better friends then the 2 of you so don't say anything unless she does. When she does say something just say that your hubby said something a while back but you didn't want to interfere and ask if there is anything you can do for her and take it from there. Good luck!
Since you don't really want to get involved, don't. Believe me, she will bring it up if she wants to talk about it. Then you can decide how much you want to be involved.
M
