Should I Call Her?

OOh man - that sucks. I'm sorry that their marriage is over.

I wouldn't contact her. You aren't close and if she hasn't reached out to you, she might be licking her wounds.

If kids are involved and she has custody of the kids - then I would just let her know she's still family and you still want to be involved in the kids lives.

Tough call, I know. I still wouldn't contact until the dust settles.

Don't contact her......Unless she calls you to talk which I doubt she will. Support and love your brother during this time.

I don't think you should go out of your way to contact her, just so you can avoid the drama and getting pulled into the middle. If you run into her while visiting your brother or you call their house phone and she answers, treat her kindly, tell her you are sorry and wish her luck and happiness in the future.

No.

There is no need to.

Your Brother told you this, confidentially.
So heed to this.

Don't go/do what is not your business.

This is a time for you to be on your brother's side. If she calls you or texts you and wants to remain friends then that is fine. But do not make the first move.

Oh no honey stay out of it. If you call or text her that is an open invite to create problems and you may have to end up choosing sides-which most would side with blood but I just wouldn't want to put myself in that situation. Stay away-far far away. If she text you or calls you I think I would simply tell her that you are sorry and wish that things could have turned out differently. If she goes into it any further I would be very firm and strong without sounding ugly and say you know I think its best that I just stay out of it-I'm sorry.

I, personally, wouldn't contact her, what are you going to say? Sorry .......

If you were not 'close' before don't try to be her 'buddy' now.
I dont mean that to sound cruel just saying.....

I would just keep your distance. Let them work through this. You contacting her might just fuel a argument of something.

No, I would keep out of it, personally, as it's not your place or business to do so.

Why would you want to call her? You said you're not close with her & she's a drunk, anyway.

I wouldn't contact your brother's soon-to-be ex-wife unless he's all right with it and it's currently amicable between them. If you see her or she answers the phone when you call, definitely talk to her... but don't bring up the divorce unless she brings it up. And even then, I would limit my comments to, "I was sad to hear the news. I'm always sorry to hear about a couple divorcing" and leave it at that.

I would not call her specifically to talk about the divorce though. If I were in her place it would make me very uncomfortable, and when one of my best friends left her husband she got phone calls from his family about it that while most of them meant well, made her wish they hadn't called her.

If you have something you want to say, call her. If not, don't.

Are kids involved? If so then it would be nice to remain friendly.

If kids aren't involved, a call would still be nice - just to check in and let her know that if she ever needs anything, etc.

If she reaches out to you in some way, definitely talk to her, show her compassion, listen, etc. It sounds like she's an alcoholic. If that's the case, you reaching out to her would probably only make the situation worse ... give her hope that she can still have her marriage without admitting she has a problem. If she's an alcoholic, she needs to go to AA and start working the program. Until she does that, there really isn't much you can do.

I wouldn't. The most amicable of breakups are still nasty bitter fights! I think it will just give her a platform to defend herself and put your brother down. Then the fights on between you and her! I would not get in the middle of any of that. Be gracious if you see her, but I wouldn't suggest initiating contact.