J.H.
Hi L.,
Thanks for asking questions. Do you think that the libido issue will be better resolved if you go off strike at home? Dare I say sex begins in the kitchen and laundry room. Nothing says love more than food and clean clothes and a smile.
Men need respect in order to be emotionally happy. Women need to feel cherished. I suggest that you and your husband sit down and write out what is your responsibility and what is his. Once you have come to an agreement on a few things sign your name on a piece of paper saying you will be responsible for those (just like with an employer each employee has specific duties. For things like mopping or windows see if you guys can be creative and fair)
When you are doing household chores each week if you set a goal, break it into small manageable chunks and give yourself grace on the days when you didn't accomplish as much as you would have liked to, or as perfectly as you would have liked it you will find it easier to accomplish with a positive attitude. Also ask for help when you need it (if you or the children are sick or every Friday, etc...) Once a week at our house I will bring the laundry into the family room and have a Moms help day where my husband and daughter and I each fold what is ours and put it away. Our daughter is 6.
These are lessons I have had to learn over the past few years. Marriage is work but it is worth it!