T.W.
L.,
A few years ago I went through this and this is what I did.
I went on Mom Strike.
I didn't do the dishes,or take out the trash, I made only meals for myself. I wasn't getting any help or and appreciation so I took a week off. I ate in my room. They finally got the message. All apologized and they started agreeing to help around the house. He started taking the trash out. I told him I know I don't work outside the home but I am not anyone's maid. I need you help around here. He agreed and everything has been so great since.
Good Luck.
T Wood