Twins and There Bonding

Updated on February 13, 2008
J.E. asks from Renton, WA
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I have b/g twins they are 15 months and they dont play together is this normal? They are so seperate just totally two different kids. They are always seperate one on one side of the room and the other one on the other side is this normal? Although he is getting to where he steals her stuff but they dont sit and play together and they arent even jealous of each other with me and dad will this chane the older they get?

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R.B.

answers from Portland on

I don't know if its any consolation but my brother and i were less than 2 years apart and we fought alot and ignored each other alot. Since our teenage years we have been really close.

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J.M.

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My twins are nineteen months and they don't play together, yet. This just is a developmental stage: toddlers don't play together. This will change when they get older.

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M.S.

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When we hear "twins", I think we assume they have that "twin connection" and bond we so often hear about. That usually is only present in identical twins though. Your twins are just simply siblings born at the same time. They have no genetic bond any stronger than that. It is totally normal for 15 month olds to play alone or only with older kids and adults. 15 month olds just do not play together. Being one boy and one girl, this will probably not change. They may become friends out of convenience, but I would not expect a certain type of relationship or bond... just let it be what it will be.

Good luck.

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L.R.

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First of all you need to remember that at 15 months children really don't play together. They might play side by side, It's called parallel play. I have twins as well. They are six now and play together at times and fight at others. All part of sibling rivalry.

The other thing you should be thankful for is that they aren't jealous if you or dad is holding the other one. That means they know that they are loved and aren't searching for attention. SOunds like you're doing a great job raising them. Having twins isn't easy. Things change constantly. I'd watch more after they are two to two and a half and aren't really playing with other children yet.

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S.B.

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Yes I believe it will change. My twins just turned 3 and are both boys and as opposite as night and day. They go through phases. When they started walking, they started going their seperate ways. They began to play more with each other around 18 months and by the time they were 2 you couldn't seperate them if you wanted to and believe me there were times I wanted to. In the last year I notice that there will be times when they want to do their own thing and then times when they are the best of friends and then there are the times they like to beat on one another. I wouldn't worry about it, they are probably closer than you think. Does one take an interest when the other gets hurt and starts to cry? Do they look for each other through out the day to make sure they are still there? They are probably bonding in ways that you don't see yet.

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M.C.

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I used to sit and play with both of my boys so they would learn to play together, teach them games they can play together and have them both help you at the same time as you do things around the house. They will change, my boys are 34 now and they live in the same town and have for many years, their homes are almost exactly the same. Give them time.

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