Twins That Do Not Interact with Others

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What you are experiencing with their social skills with others is normal for their age. Children that age are into themselves. They will play next to other kids, but not really "with" other kids. Usually it is not until around 4 or 5 that children start to want to play with others.

I am a twin. I can tell you that having separate freinds should not affect their bond. It may seem their relationship may wax and wane and certain times, but they will always have that bond.My sister and I fought like cats and dogs at times. As we grew into teenhood, we got even closer.

I think three year olds are still engaged in parallel play and don't start playing more socially and interactively for another year or two. I have twin boys, and we were in a playgroup with my daughter who's 18 months older. Sometimes they played alone, sometimes together, sometimes with other kids. For quite a while, one of my boys gravitated towards his sister more than his twin. I think this was because he was highly verbal and more closely matched his sister.

I really wouldn't worry about it at all EVER. They'll make different friends eventually, probably more when they get into grade school, and especially when their different boy/girl interests start to naturally differentiate them. My daughter was the Pied Piper with her brothers until they were about six years old. (I think they finally figured out that they didn't have to do what she told them to do anymore.) Even though my boys definitely have their own interests, they have still been interested in a lot of the same things. Because of this, they tend to gravitate toward the same friends. I'm okay with that, and don't think that same-sex twins will suffer at all from not having their own separate set of friends.

In preschool, my boys were in the same class as it was the only one. Ever since Kindergarten, however, they've been separated and it's been fine. I knew that they would be okay because they played independently of each other, then would check in, then back to their independent playing. The 2 Kindergarten classes were separated by a bathroom in the middle and they liked that if the short hallway doors were opened that they could say hi but that was about it. Kids were seated at lunch by classroom, and they never complained that they couldn't eat together. I always liked it because one boy was stronger academically than the other. The one who wasn't as academically skilled often compared himself to his brother, claiming that he was stupid. This only strengthened my belief that it was in their best interests to be separated--I didn't want them comparing every single activity to each other, coloring page by coloring paper. You and your husband will know what's best for your twins when the time comes.

There are so many things that you hear a mother "should" and "shouldn't" be doing. It could drive you absolutely crazy. Let this one go and don't worry about it. It will work itself out naturally over time. Sorry if I've gone on a rant.

are they in pre school yet? once you put them in pre-school.. have them seperated .. in different classes.. it will be hard at first.. but after a while they will get their own friends.. they will still be great together.. but you'll see after a while they will find others that they like.. so deff. seperate them in school.. the earlier the better.. good luck

It is normal. They'll eventually start having other friends, but at this age, it's nothing to worry about. I completely disagree with another poster who said you should separate them when they hit school age. This can be traumatizing to little kids. Starting school is completely out of their comfort zone and separating them will only make it worse. My cousin's kids ended up acting out ALOT when she decided to separate them at the school's suggestion. (and ended up on ritalin, which is a whole other complaint). My mother in law fought the school every year about keeping her twins together until they finally hit middle school and started changing classes, in which case, it became a moot point as they had different interests and different schedules.

That's normal for their age. They have each other, and have no need for others. Twins compared to singletons do not have the need to have friends. This will change. When my kids started kindergarten last September I noticed (I go volunteer for recess), that they don't interact with each other. One is a social butterfly, and the other one plays by herself most of the time. I have to tell you that bothered me to death and back, as i realized one was being left out.
So I was never concerned about my twins not having other friends, and even not, I am more bothered that one has friends and the other one not so much. I'd prefer if they stayed close all the time.

I have 3 year old twin boys also, and I am just starting to take them to daycare on sunday at church and they still do their own thing. I believe eventually they will start playing with other kids, it will just take time.

I don't have twins, but there alot in my family and I know moms with twins. This seems totally normally. In fact I've heard where Dr.'s will recommend that you don't try to force them to have sepereate frineds/activities because their bond is so strong it can be upsetting to them. Your twins are pretty young too, so i'm sure as they get older it will change. There are twin girls in my neighborhood as well, and eveb though they do have different friends and interests, the majority of the time they are always together, and they are best friends. Their parents even choose to keep them in the same classes. It's comfortable for them, and I think it's great in a way. To have a built in best buddy!? I wouldn't worry too much, they are just bonded and happy to have each other!

I have twiu cousins and this is noraml. They have a bond that is deeper than non-twin siblings. Even have their own language. When they were adults, they still could not stand to be far apart. They married, but lived near each other. We, as their famliy, were ok with this as we could see that it was something none of us would ever experience. Now that one of them has died, the other one knew that his famliy would be there for him and we were. Love your twins, and give them acceptance. That is the best you can do for them.

They will eventually interacte with others. My girls are almost 5 and it took them until around 4 and that was only with kids they are familiar with. They wouldn't even play with their young cousins til then. Even now we go to playgroup and they really don't interact with the other kids much(they are all younger) but will play among them. This past year in Mother's Day Out they did have separate friends and would go opposite ways in class to be with their friends and no it hasn't affected their bond at all.