To have a 3rd child??? Hmmm...
Hi! My husband and I are contemplating a 3rd child. We were so blessed with a boy (age 4) and a girl (age 1) and we thought we were done! I was so happy to have one of each. But now, I am feeling an itch for a 3rd. Just wondering, all of you Mom's with 3....is it sooo hard? It was quite an adjustment from one to two but I have heard the 3rd is easier :) I am also 37 years old so age is playing a factor in my decision too. Thanks so much!!
Isn't this a copy of a previous question? Why repeat it? If you want a 3rd child have one. Many of my friends have 6 some are even part of 12 kids. I think big families are the best!!!!!
why did you post the exact same question? You can read the answers provided to you yesterday by clicking on the "my questions" tab and you will be able to read all the answers.
Was there a reason this question was asked twice?
A good friend called me one day crying her eyes out that she was unexpectedly pregnant with her third child. She desperately didn't want three. Today, at 5 years old, this little girl is just the perfect addition to their family. I think they would have been very happy with two, but you never know what you want until you have it. I was a total surprise 4th to my parents, but now, 44 years later, I'd say I'm the closest to them out of the 4 kids.
ETA: why are you asking this a second time?
Is money a factor? Do you have family close to help? Could you handle a child with special needs? Would you need a different house? Car? Would it change the things you want for your kids now? Would it change your marriage?
My third was the easiest of all. If all my kids could have been so easy I would have had a dozen. I was 41 when our sixth was born. I wouldn't trade any of them for anything and I am so thankful we had each and every one of them. It isn't always easy but I don't think it is the number of children that makes it challenging. The challenging part is understanding each one and knowing I am being what each one needs for a mother. I believe my children are my treasure. My children feel that their siblings are their treasure. We can't afford to give them all that they want but we do give them all that they need.
I loved having 3 altho 3 was the breaking point with me being able to work. I quit and stayed home with them for the next 5 yrs. But that was great too! I loved it.
Three children provides triangulation, which means it takes the competition away from just two kids competing for your attention. I think it made our kids closer and have loads more fun.
So glad I did not stop at two.
1 to 2 was not hard for us but 2 to 3 was. Though, your kids are not that close in age so maybe it would be easier. 3 to 4 and 4 to 5 were a bit chaotic but not the shock of going to 3 and being outnumbered.
2-3 was MUCH easier than 1-2. We have #4 coming in a few months and I am excited, but not really nervous.
If all other things are in place, go for it! ;-)
If both you and your husband are in complete agreement, then don't worry about it. Those of us who stopped at two are mostly happy because that is what we chose. Most of those who have a 3rd are mostly happy because they can't imagine life without that 3rd child. It's all in how you deal with what you have.
Our 3rd was a surprise. While I love him dearly, I can honestly say I would not have chosen to have a 3rd. It's not any harder, but I was really happy with 2. The jump from 2 to 3 is not nearly as hard as from 1 to 2. My youngest is just do different from his brothers.
I'm thankful for my third! My oldest and my middle are 5 years apart, so that was not hard to me. My middle and my baby are 18 months apart, so for me going from 2 to 3 was harder. Plus I had post partum depression after my third so that did not help. Go with your heart! You will never regret having more, but you will live with regret everyday if you do not go with what is in your heart! We made a permanent decision to not have anymore kids (tubal), and I have regretted that for three and half years now. That is one decision I wish I could take back because I would have another baby in a heartbeat and I'm 38!
its all about what you can handle. Not the quantity. Its really not easier or harder. Its just MORE of everything. I had 3 in quick succession. I am pretty much done. I don't want anymore, but my husband keeps thinking about a 4th. I am not dashing his plans on the rocks, but I am not encouraging it either.
Going from 2 to 3 was easy... taking care of a newborn 3rd time around is so much simpler because you don't second guess everything and you are more confident. Also, our third is about to turn 2 and she is so flexible and easygoing- she is used to always being on the go and as a result is quite social, and pretty much goes with the flow. I hate that people always talk about with 3 there is always a middle child or an odd man out... I was the middle of 3 and I had a great childhood and ofcourse there was sibling rivalry, but we always had someone to play with and we are great friends to this day. And, not to be pessimistic, if something ever happens to one sibling... they will still have someone. If college and going on trips weren't so darn expensive... we would have 4~
Three is harder. You become outnumbered which makes just about everything more difficult. Also, it is much more difficult to travel. Most 'family rooms' in resorts, hotels etc are only set up for a family of four. My third son has me wrapped around his little finger and he is truly the apple of my eye, but having a third is more difficult and expensive.
I stopped at 2 and am so thankful. we also have a boy and a girl. that odd child out just seems like it is so unfair to set your family up that way so that one is always out of it. really how often do you see 3 kids gettign along for a long period of time.
that baby itch can be satisfied in so many ways, if you really really wanted a child, then consider adoption. there are so many needy childrend, you could be rescuing one from a sad sad life.
