Third Baby?

I can relate. With my first, I was sick the entire 9 months and was hospitalized throughout most of the first 5 months. So, even though my desire for a second child was very strong, it was tough to think about being pregnant again.

This last pregnancy was much better! I had to be hydrated twice, but other than that it went pretty smoothly. Memories of my first son's precious face were enough to keep me going through the second pregnancy.

A few words of advice: 1). Get someone to help with childcare. Even if it's just a teenage helper, she could play with older children while you rest. 2). Keep emergency numbers up on the fridge in case you're feeling really lousy. 3). Stock up now on gatorade, popsicles and italian ice.

Anyway, good luck! I hope you have some happy news soon:)

My husband wanted a third. The more we thought about it, the more we just weren't sure. (Well, I was never sure, but he became increasingly unsure.) In the end we decided that we're thrilled with the 2 we have, and we don't need any more children. He got a vasectomy, and we haven't looked back. Neither of us regrets the decision not to have another child. Once we made the decision, I think we both felt like a weight lifted off of us - it was the feeling of being unsure about whether we wanted to do it, unsure of whether it was the right thing to do, unsure of all the other things that come with having a third child (bigger car? another stroller? keep the baby gear, or give it away? will be still be able to afford the things our kids like to do, like sports or arts? will we ever get any time to ourselves now that we'd be playing zone defense instead of man-to-man coverage?). In the end, I know our decision not to have another was the right one for us to make.

Obviously it's an intensely personal decision, but if you are not sure, I think you should wait until you are sure one way or the other. Best of luck to you!

My sense of it is, if you are unsure or anxious about any important decision, that's critical information that you should not ignore. Imagine what your little ones will have to do sacrifice in terms of your time and attention if you follow your established pattern of morning sickness. Perhaps you have parents or other close family who could help fill the gap, but that is a lot to ask of any young child.

There are endless wonderful, loving reasons to have more babies. There are as many wonderful, loving ideas to stop with the two that replace your husband and yourself.

Bringing another human being into the world is the single highest-impact decision a family can make. With the environmental burden of a huge human population already changing the climate for future generations, I hope you'll also weigh that against the ongoing well-being of your two children, and everyone else's, and the sustainability of the planet they'll be sharing when they want to raise children of their own.

I can't think of any reasonable person who regrets having a child once the child is born. It is worth the suffering to have them. The sickness is only for a season. If it is any help, my best pregnancy (so far) was when I was 39. I felt the absolute best of all my pregnancies.

I am 25 weeks preg with our 3rd. I was very sick with my boys for most of my preg. This one has not been that bad though. I do not know if it's because it's a girl or because my boys are older (3 1/2 and 5 1/2). I'd say go for it, your kids are older and they will be able to understand if you need some time to yourself.

Wow. Not one answer so far has addressed your question about adoption. If you AND your husband are open to it by all means, look in to it. The cost is not prohibitive depending on where you want to go.e.g. Russia is expensive (in my opinion), domestic adoptions are usually very reasonable. Whether you go domestic or international, there are tax credits. You might even entertain the idea of an older child, say 18 months -3 years old. I had a sibling who was adopted as an infant when I was four. I have a child I adopted when he was 4. I am grateful to my parents who showed me that family was about love not biology. Good Luck.

I don't think anyone here could say you should or shouldn't, but I would say that if you were not even thinking of your sickness until you got a stomach bug, then if you have a third and are sick, you are again not going to look back focusing on that time of not feeling well but rather on how your family has grown. It is also nice that not every pregnancy is alike, so you might not be sick at all. We are just 6 weeks along with our 3rd and I know that while we are going to make sacrifices and not do as much as other people do, we are always going to be thrilled that we added to our family. Good luck--whatever decision you make, I hope you and your husband are at peace with it. :)

oh me too!!!! I only have one DD but I HATED being preggo, I was beyond sick everything you could think of (well not life threatning or anything just all kinds of normal and even not common and odd sickness) examples and TMI: uti, yeast, threw my back out, chronic cough w/ no cure also reason I blew up my back, gained like 70 lbs!! really I was huge, could not smell or eat any food at all only pasta plain, reason for weight gain I am sure, heartburn, car sickness, I had to take rogam shot (spelling) for blood type, not able to sleep or get comfortable, forever peeing like everyone else that is preggo, carpal tunnel only while I was preggo never had it b4 or after, I was also high risk so I had to go to the dr twice a week! and lastly I had to get injections of blood thinner (lovenox and heprin) twice a day for preggo and 6 weeks (?) after! fun times! I cant even imagine doing it again w/ a toddler running around!!!! Basically I was just saying I totally agree w/ you...not that this helped any so sorry about that, but you are NOT alone, bc of this I am waiting till my DD is a bit older and can 'care for herself' a bit more incase I am just too sick. I would love to adopt too but just like you cost is a major issue, so that wont happen. oh and I am 31 so not in real need to hurry, but the high risk part of my kinda makes it a hurry.

If I understand this correclty...You want to have another baby and your concern is the morning sickness you get for 4.5 months while pregnant? If that is it talk to your Doctor about it. Maybe there is something now that can help. And I agree that if you are anxious you might not quiet be ready...the sickness might be an excuse. I say pray on it, think about it, talk about it with your hubby.

I was sick from the beginning of my pregnancies to the last day (literally, I threw up IN the delivery room w/2 of my 3 kids)...I ended all my pregnancies weighing less than when I started! Seriously, oh I was miserable!

I was nervous to go for a 3rd after I realized with the 2nd that the 1st wasn't a fluke and that I had a strong tendency towards severe morning sickness...but I really wanted 1 more and having my 3rd child has completed my family like no other!

All the luck to you in making your big decision...

I am currently pregnant with baby # 3 and have horrible All Day sickness which got worse in the evening hours. My dr. prescribed me Zofran, which I dubbed my "puke pills" and ahhh the relief!! Haha. Anyways, just wanted to let you know there are medications to help relieve the pukiness and it def helped me thru the horrible "I am sooo sick" feelings.

Good Luck!

I am pregnant with my 3rd right now. I have had bad morning sickness with all 3 pregnancies.

At the beginning of this one I was convinced that this should be our last biological child and that we should adopt any future children because I get so sick. This time it lasted till like 16 or 17 weeks! (Sick all day. Throw up everything I eat. No energy. Etc.)

Now that I am over that "sick" hump, I am LOVING being pregnant and can't imagine not having MORE! LOL. So, even if it's bad for a time, it does get better. And once that baby comes, you tend to forget most of the harder times. I know that I do!

I do still want to adopt in the future as well. But my husband doesn't feel that it is the right time for our family. And we BOTH need to be on board with a decision like that. We would adopt out of foster care though....... (cost issue. My husband refuses to "buy" a baby.......) One thing to really consider about adopting is that even if YOU go ahead with it, a birth mom would still need to pick your family. There could be a long wait or a forever wait. Of course, your family could be picked right away too!

I also had severe morning sickness with my first two kids, although the first was the worst (24/7 sickness for 7.5 months). But the sickness was much better with my third child. So every pregnancy is different, and perhaps realizing that can help you to feel less anxious.

Even if you do get morning sickness, as horrible as that is, and as interminable as it might feel at the time, it really does not last forever. If you really want a third child, it will all be worth it. Instead of thinking about the morning sickness (or, if you do get morning sickness, than while you are sick) think about how it felt to hold your precious new babies and watch them grow, and how it feels to be with your children now.

I don't have any advice regarding adoption, as it's something I haven't looked into in about 10 years, but I can say something about morning sickness. My first pregnancy, I was terribly sick all 9 months. In the second, it was mostly gone after 7 months (I was in a better place emotionally, and more able to devote myself to doing what I needed to do to not be as sick all the time, in spite of taking care of a 3yo.) With my third pregnancy, I discovered acupuncture, and the morning sickness was mostly gone within a few weeks of starting treatment -- I still got sick, oh, maybe once every week or two, but it was usually triggered by something specific, rather than a generall food-is-not-my-friend issue. I highly recommend finding a good acupuncturist. If you're anywhere near Nashua, I can recommend someone.