Hi J.,
I have 3 children, 8, 6 & 4. For quite some time after my third, I was mourning not having a 4th child. I love, love love babies. First, your baby is still very young. Give it some time and see how you feel. It may be that in a couple years, if the timing works for you, it may be possible to have another child. Honestly though, I've found that as my children have gotten older, it is a relief to leave behind some of the challenges of the infant/toddler stage. Occasionally I still find myself longing for an infant, but realistically, our family is at capacity emotionally. Even with 3, I feel like I don't have enough time to devote individually to my children. Adding a 4th just isn't feasible given the personalities in our house. Also as the kids get older and involved in more and more activities, it becomes a logistical challenge, and the youngest ends up doing a lot of waiting around near classes and ballgames. So, I guess I've dealt with it by not looking at it from the perspective of what I want (baby), but from the perspective of what is best for the family I have right now, and a busier and more frazzled mom simply isn't it. It is sad, because my kids love babies too, and are very good with them whenever we are around a young cousin or friend. They have lobbied for another baby.