i have twins they r six months and i have a 19month. how do i get my 19month to get ues to his new bro and sis.
i let him help me with the twins all the time he doesnt know what to think of them he is nice one min then he is rough with them the next
make him an essential part of the daily processes....don't isolate him.
Let him hand you a clean diaper. Let him help you hold the bottle. Lots of easy ways to integrate the kids.... Peace!
Can you give him a little job of getting the diaper when you need to change a diaper?
Does he like to pat their backs? Say "Be gentle, see?" and show him how to touch gently.
You must be O. BUSY lady!
Boy do you have your hands full... Time is the key... your 19month old, is still a baby too, it's hard for kiddos to share mom and dad's attention. I agree with giving him some little jobs to do. Talk about how he's the big brother and needs to always watch over his baby bro and sis... I know it will be hard, but make sure you have one-on-one time with him, big boy time!
Time will take care of it all and they will end up great company for one
another. Good luck.
I bet he could really use some one on one time with mom. It's hard to share what was yours alone with 2 needy new people. Plan time alone for you together. Whether it's during the twins naptime or if you can get a sitter for the twins for a few hours.
My son and daughter are thirteen months apart. When my daughter was born we got my son a baby doll. When I fed our daughter, he fed his baby a bottle. When I gave the baby a bath, he gave his baby a bath. He learned how to be gentle with his sister by being gentle with his baby. He rocked his baby when I rocked my, dressed his baby, played with his baby. All of it. I explained everything we were doing and why. It also gave us time together because for my I was taking care of his sister, but to him we were playing together with our babies. It is a great opportunity to teach gentleness, care and compassion.
Hope this helps
L.
A 19 mos old baby is still learning how to be gentle. If he isn't rough with them frequently out of anger this is very normal. Show him how to be gentle over and over.
When he's angry keep him apart from the twins. Handle his anger as a separate issue from the way he treats his siblings. Show him how to use his words. Give him a time out.
At 19 months a baby is impulsive. He's just began to learn how to be around others. He's still a baby who needs time with you without the babies. He needs your patient teaching of how to be gentle and how to handle his feelings.
