Sharing - Wallingford, CT

What I had always heard is that there are *some, special* things that they should be allowed to NOT have to share. A privilege of life is having at least a few coveted items you can call your OWN and not have to share (for instance, my diamond ring, my car, noone's gonna borrow THOSE! LOL) Perhaps if you kinda go through some of his special things with him, you and he can pick out what he likes most, say, 5 or 10 things, and THOSE can be the things he doesn't have to share. Then he can learn that it's okay to share most things, cause you will get them back, yet you don't have to panic and have your special things going around to other people. I hope that helps, it seems like it may at least?!

your son is doing what any 3yr old does. It's MOMMY!!(LOL) "When mommy is around I can do anything because she will protect me and stand up for me".Yourdoing everything you can, just keep showing him right from wrong, and talk to him about it, let him know how it makes someone else feel when he doesn't share. Everychild that is in daycare, or school get's along "pretty well" with his/her peer's, but when a parent is in the room, it changes the scene. They have to show off for you, when they get older as my 8 yr old daughter and step son are showing me, the "let's show off in front of our friends" goes from "that's mine, don't touch" to "I'm not going to listen to mom, and I'm gonna give mom an attitude" because it's cool. He'll be ok I prmise like I said just keep teaching him by example ( because it does work) and talk to him.

At around 3 most children start trying to see who's the "boss", testing the waters and all that. And being able to withhold things helps him to feel as if he has comand of his own life. My son has the same issue. You just have to keep with it. Keep sharing with him and praise him when he shares with others of his own accord. Positive reinforcement all the way. Don't try to make him share, just be sure to tell him how proud you are when he does.
~C.~

hi L., my daughter was that same way at 3. she is now seven and so much better at it with soft reminders from time to time. she is an only child so i can't be to hard on her. all her other friends for the most part have siblings. at the end of the play date or her time at the ymce after care program i ask her how she did with sharing. she looks at me and tells me how it went.i guess kids just need a little reminding with soft words to see them through it.i do one thing though, i actually talk to her and explain what her actions do to other people as well as what they can do to her.

Hi L.,

My son is also 3 yrs old, and I'm in the exact situation that you are. At daycare, he's great with sharing, but at home, not a chance. I've talked with the daycare owner, and they said that it's the age and also when they're at home, it's they're toys and they get possessive of they're toys, but at daycare, it's not they're toys and they know that.

It'll just take time, my husband and I try to encourage sharing all the time....they're 3, they still have the one track mind of "it's all about me". It'll pass with time.

Good luck!

~~M.~~