Seperation Anxiety - Grand Prairie,TX

First Time Mom--welcome to the world of motherhood guilt. It doesn't matter if you work 100 hours a week or are a full-time sahm, the guilt will follow and eat you up. Take a deep breath. I'm sure it seems like you can't do anything right, but just trust yourself a little more. And trust me that it WILL get easier. The baby will not be permanently damaged by your tough schedule: the LOVE i s what's important. Just focus on the love you feel for him. It will transcend all your other worries.

Good luck. It will all be okay.

My SO works long hours and some weeks go by where the kids only see him one day. Our youngest who is now 2 use to be totaly attached to me. He didn't wantanyone but me. Now when daddy is home he dosnt want anything to do with me he just wants daddy.

Most kids go though a spurt where they like one parent or the other, then they switch. I didn't really find that in my house. My kids prefer me b/c I was the one home with them. Well, it was worse at ages 1-2, but from 2-3 it's not as bad. Make time for him/her when you are home, and don't let daddy do everything. If you can pick one special thing to do daily, that would be great. Like if you can always be the one to do the bath, bedtime routine, or feed dinner. If you can't do that one thing everyday (or every occurance), no biggie, just make sure you don't default to daddy every time, and it's ok if junior wants daddy to put on his PJ's but that you say "nope, mommy wants a turn putting on your PJ's" and maybe while you are putting on PJ's, play peek a boo, read a book, or do something else one on one for 5-10 minutes. It doesn't have to be hours, but just don't default to dad, the kid isn't going to be emotional scarred if you are the one to brush his teeth one night.

Know what I remember best about my young years? My Dad getting me up on his shoulders to escort me to bed. What funI thought! I'm special! I can see over everything! (My older brother and sister were too big for that.) He read me one brief story or just talk a bit about the stars outside the window or something. Maybe I'd say my prayers in front of him. He'd kiss my forehead goodnight. Now, he was a travelling salesman at that time so I probably only got to see him Friday night through Sunday night. And I don't remember it happening a lot but it sure stuck in my mind that I was so imiportant to him and that he was fun. My mom kept a perfect house, let the kids play at our house, did all the housework and everything. Yet, it is my dad's memory that makes me smile because he lit up when I was around. He told me I was very smart. He looked like he thought I was fun to be with. (Uh, mom didn't) So, that's what stood out to me. Quality time for me was that.

My husband was able to stay at home with our DS for a year starting when he was 9 months old. He only wanted Da. Now though he only wants me and is a complete Mommy's boy. It'll get better!