K.C.
Your 9 month old doesn't know love or hate at this point. She only knows that when she has a need (hungry, dirty, etc) that someone takes care of her. You've been the primary care giver by breast feeding and probably by being on maternity leave. Being that you just weaned her off the breast and she's now taking a bottle it will take her some time to get used to the new routine. Your husband needs to realize this. Also, in my experience, babies just tend to be more attached to Mom then they are to dad for various reasons. He just needs to keep at it. How about he plays with her or makes goofy faces or reads to her while your holding her or feeding her? The more she interacts with Dad the faster this will pass and before you know it, you'll be writing Mamasource asking why your little girl is more attached to her Dad then she is to you! I've seen it with my own daughter who is now 3. As a baby she was very attached to me but now, it's all about Daddy. If he gives up and shows frustration your daughter is going to feel that and by default not feel as safe with him and it'll become a vicious cycle.
Lastly, your husband needs to realize that this child is not the same as his older daughter. And if you guys have another baby, that child will be totally different as well. She's her own individual person and if he keeps at it and makes it a priority to be an active and involved Daddy his little baby girl is going to adore him no matter what. And if he is really bothered by the relationship he has with his 14 year old he needs to address that with her and with her mother and work to rebuild that relationship, no matter what it takes.
Good luck. This isn't abnormal, you'll see cycles of this over and over again and he just needs to realize this is part of raising a child. Sometimes he'll be the favorite and sometimes he won't be. Withdrawing and throwing his hands up in frustration is only going to make matters worse.
Edited to say: One more thought, how about you find a day to go hang out with friends or get some spa treatments or whatever and give Daddy and daughter some time alone. She may still cry but with time they'll figure it out.