Seeking Someone with Twins Between the Ages of 10-13 - Akron,OH

I have 10 year old twin boys and a 12 year old son... and they all bicker all the time - with each other, and with me. It's really not just a twin things (and I do understand that there are things that are just "twin things") but this one isn't it. My 12 year old bickers just as much. One thing that I don't tolerate is disrespect. I don't let them name-call ~ which they still do every day, but I don't let them get away with it. Lately I've been using work around the house as consequences for fighting too much. I also have a 2 year old boy, who has colored all over my walls! So lately whenever my boys have gotten too bad, I have them pick a wall or two and start scrubbing!! It's awesome, they hate it and I'm getting spring cleaning done out of it!! =)

My son is only one. But I helped raise my sister's 3 girls. When they were that age they did alot of fighting. It's called being a preteen and/or teenager. It's not going to pass. LOL Welcome to being a parent to teenagers! :-) Even my sister and I were that way at that age. Didn't stop til we got to be adults. Don't worry too much though, now we're good friends! Good luck!!!!! And try to remember that as much as they are driving you nuts, they are going thru some serious changes right now (especially if they are girls) and try to remember what it was like when you were that age.

They may be bored, and need to appreciate the fact that they have eachother.
Find a project that they can do independently but check eachother's progress on. My girls cut things out of magazines that they like,or would like to have, and tape them to a manilla folder.(helps define tastes and goals).
They also do weaving and it really holds their attention.
My girls are 22 months apart, so they are not twins, but close enough to have those fighting spells.
Also, if they can handle it have them find out about twins or siblings who are dealing with serious illness or separation. Just because they came into the world together doesn't mean they will always have eachother.

My son's best friend is 11 and he has a twin sister. Yes, they bicker all the time. It's probably partially the age... you have a double dose of the tweens going on! I can't say I have any advice though. Good luck!

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I have twin boys and that time is very challenging. When they were young, they were the best of buddies. Then came the middle school years. Their choice of friends impacted the relationship. They are identical and one twin wanted to establish his own identity. It was very difficult to watch them interact so negatively. When they turned 16 it started to change for the good again. Now, they are 18 and the best of friends. I think it is normal for siblings to act that way, it just is very hard to watch the seperation. My best to you. This too shall pass.

I have twin girls that will be 13 in June and YES, they bicker a lot. They have a FEW moments of actually getting along very well, but other than that, it's lots of attitude and usually minor name calling. It can be aimed at anyone in the family, not just the twin! It appears to be the age so I keep telling myself that this too shall pass!

Well, I don't have twins, but I have an older sister (4 years older) and a younger sister (2 years younger) and we bickered with each other TONS and with our mother. Sounds like they're normal.

Usually my mother would tell us we'd have to work it out amongst ourselves, unless it got out of control, which we tried not to do because then we knew we'd be in trouble.

THere's also the typical "go to separate corners of the house" philosophy.

Then there's also the "these are the only siblings you've got, so first, you better get used to is because nobody's going anywhere, and secondly, this is a 'bicker free' zone."

The best suggestion I can think of is to set up some ground rules, and be consistant with enforcing them. They are going to have to figure out how to get along, and "Don't make me come in there or there's going to be real troule!" FOrtunately, our house was big enough that the 4 of us kids could go to 4 different rooms to get away from each other. Of course, that didn't work well when some of the 4 decided to "gang up" on one to see just how aggravated they could get that person.

Also try to find some activities you guys can do together like going to the park with a bunch of bubble making things or throw a frisbee around - play frisbee golf or something. Basically, some "team building" type of stuff. They'll always remember how much fun they had when they relax enough and aren't trying to do stuff to terrorize the other siblings.

Good luck!

with ealing thing with each other its a sibling thing let them work it out among themselves.with you its testingtheir boundaries discipline works here be firm but consistent .dont let them change your punishment follow thru what you say