Respect

L. I see you have aked for help a few times it sounds very familuar for this one in particular I have to say daddy for some reason has the upper hand and I think that it is like that with most all families. Dad's presence commands attention and respect whereas with us mommies it's as if we are thought to be push-overs. I sympathize with you I don't have any answers for you but I thought that if you heard from another mother it might help you to know that your not alone. It sounds like you have your hands full but boys are boys I know this first hand I have one thats 12 one thats turning 10 and twin 12 month old BOYS and let me tell you they are a mess a fun mess but a handful none the less. I have 2 girls and 2 step girls so I know how crazy it can get so if you want to vent ever hit me up. I checked out your myspace page your pictures are adorable you can check mine out too http://www.myspace.com/heathermhefner to get a feel of who I am but honestly I do understand and it can be frustrating to say the least I am sure your doing the best you can just remember boys are BUSY BIG TIME! Take Care H.

I wouldn't know about my kids respecting their father more because my boys father has never been around but I know what you are going thru. I raised two boys by myself until about 5 years ago. As teenagers they respect me more than they ever did as small children. If you stick to your guns - show him that he won't get what he wants without respect being shown and he will come around.

I have the same problem with my daughter who is 2 1/2. The only difference is her dad and I are married! I think that it is because my daughter is with me more and is more comfortable with me so doesn't worry about "challenging" me. I still don't let her get away with most but I am more lenient with her then her dad. Hope this helps.

L.,

I am a single mom of a 2 year old son, I have full and controlled custody of our son, he left when i found out i was pregnant, he didnt sign the birth certificate and we werent married so he has no rights at all, he is also that way with his father, the few times that he has seen him he listens to him more than me..but on the other hand we live with my dad and also listens to my dad alot more than me, i think its just a man thing, unfortuntely.. they have the firmer voice, and that look that makes them look more serius than us.. i am having problems with my son right now with disipline, he wont listen at all, time outs dont work at all i dont know what to do.. any suggestions? message me back if ya need anything else :)

I think that the other mom is right dads just have this presence that seems to command respect. But for some reason my 2 oldest mind my husband better and my little one minds me better. I dunno why they do this but talking to your ex may be the best thing. Explain what's going on and ask if he'll help by talking to him or even backing you up when he's around. Also if you're prone to give in when he's pitching a fit or be a little of a pushover then i'd really try to cut that out. That'll show him you're the boss just as much as daddy. The pics are really cute my address is http://www.myspace.com/dwnsthgagrl if you wanna check out my little one too:) Hope this helps and Good Luck!!

Hi L.-
I have to say that my girls tend to show more respect to my husband also. In my case, I feel that it's because I tend to give in more often & easier than he does. My tone of voice is not as threatening as his either.
Off of this subject. I looked at your myspace & saw P'cola mentioned on a couple of photos. Is it Pensacola? Just wondering.....that's where I'm from.
Have a wonderful day & good luck.
A. P.

hiya.. Sounds like you just need to stick to your guns for a
little while...
Your son may be small but he will understand when you explain to him what you are doing.. put in perspective with'
being a " big boy'. A regular schedule will also help along with a couple of regular things to do .. such as .. playtime, lunch.. clean up and naptime.. same with bedtime.. bath and bed maybe a story. Same routine every day and nite and he should catch on in a week or so.. Hope this helps.!P.