Preschool Lying!

I am a bit confused. Is she touching other peoples privates? Hers? Are you sure that she is not doing it, and by talking about it, she may want to have a conversation about it. If she is touching herself, that is not a problem at all and is completely normal. If she is touching others, she needs to be taught that, while we can hold hand and hug others, there are parts of the body that only get touched by others if they need to be cleaned or if someone is hurt and both are only done by a trusted grown up. Focus more on what is going on and if she is lying, why?

B.

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Are you sure she is lying?
She is at a normal age to be curious about herself and her body.
Whether she is lying or not, try to get more information: when, where, how does it make her feel... Answer to her questions if any. Be matter-of-fact and have simple answers, according to what you are comfortable with and her level of understanding. Be prepared! If she feels you are not comfortable talking about it or that you are hiding something, she will only get more curious or secretive about it. Better keep the communication lines open!
Many parents are shocked when they discover their preschooler is touching herself, but it's a normal part of her development. You just need to let her know what is appropriate/not appropriate according to your family values and to tell her that privates are private, meaning that she cannot touch another person private (whether a little friend playing doctor or a grown-up) or let another person touch her privates (except mom and doctor)
Then, whether she is lying or not, you can explain her that it is not appropriate to talk about her privates with "people" and she should keep this talk for you and any other caregiver of your choice (babysitter, grandma, daddy...)

Pre-schoolers lie. And if they get a strong reaction from us, BONUS! Try to remain calm, whatever you do. From your post, I can't tell if your daughter even understands what "privates" mean, but if you aren't sure, calmly asking her "Do you know what that means?" is a good place to start.

Oh, and preschoolers sometimes do touch their own "privates." Little boys are often what our preschool called "holders" but I imagine some girls might be too. The teachers ignored it, told me not to worry about asking the boys if they needed to go potty when I helped out, and assured me it was a phase. Could this have anything to do with it?

i had that same problem with one of my "daycare's" only it was my daughter and little boy on top of eachother kissing like adults do. and yes i agree, i wouldn't follow heather's advice...not at that age, would scare your baby enough that she may not play period.

i investigated the situation: i took her to parks, and let her think i wasn't watching her to see if this situation repeated itself and guess what......it didint' nothing ever happened but childs play. i also "surprised" the day care and showed up unexpectedly...and guess what, i caught the kids doing this; teacher AND the director LAUGHING at them. (they had no clue i was even there). so the next day. i went in early, talked with her teacher, and asked and pointed...who is this boy? she said that's my son. so i told her my thoughts....that it's funny that my daughter is the only one instogating this situation. so of course the teacher was offended, i later called the directer, and asked for a conference she refused then told me that she was too busy to talk. immidately after we hung up she called my ex-husband (her dad) and told him that she just didn't want to talk to me about it. so i called the owner AND dhs removed my daughter from the facility and well.... 6 months later they were under different managment. so aparently it had been going on with other kids

investigate mom. even if your daughter is involved she may not be the problem....why scold her for something she is being taught is right when it's wrong?

man i hate daycare's!

these day's (she's 7 now) i tell her, if you need to do that, do that in your room when the door's are closed and no one else is in there.. this tells her it's ok, just keep it to yourself, now if i walk in and she's making her barbies have sex, or humping her pillow.......we'll sit and talk

I hate to say this, but probably not "lying", she just isn't doing it in front of you. It's totally normal for her to touch her body, but it's embarrassing when she's announcing it to the world. Just explain to her that her privates are private. Some personal things we don't talk about to people and that is one of them. Good luck!