Please Tell Me If This Is "Normal"???

Updated on August 11, 2007
J.L. asks from Glenview, IL
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I have the sweetest loving 1 year old son who goes to KinderCare 5 days a week while I am at work. he is in the older infant room till he is 15 months. Yesterday he came home and had a bite mark on his wrist there was no accident report which they are suppose to give me no matter what... i called the daycare to question it iwas told they will look into it.. today i dropped him off at daycare and his teacher didnt even know it had happend! which led me to beleive she wasnt paying attention do i brought this to the attnetion to the assit directer who in turn said she will look in to it and maybe he did it him self... ithought was pretty dumb of her to say to me.... she said they will kee pas close eye out today... needless to say i picked him up from daycare and low and behold another bite mark on his back!!!!this time i did receive an accident report, i know kids start to bite but when there is no more then 8 babies and 2 teachers it seems weird... can some1 telll me if i am over reacting??? and also if any one knows and good and reasonable daycares either near glenview/niles or in buffalo grove..

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N.D.

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I agree with the others -- this is not good.

Human bites, if it breaks the skin, can cause worse infections than those bites inflicted by a cat/dog!

Other daycares to consider are Holy Family Hospital daycare center and Lutheran General Hospital daycare center. I've visited both, and are excellent. Both are located in Niles.

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M.R.

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I have worked in daycare for over 20 years and the one thing I can tell you is biting is hard to stop from happening. It is much like hitting except the after effect is much worse. Think about how fast a child can hit another child, that is how fast a child can bite. It comes out of nowhere! The teachers cannot have their eyes on each child every minute of the day. Theres eight children in the room with only two teachers. Diapers needed to be changed, the children need to be fed, etc.. Yes it is the teachers jobs to keep the child safe, but children sometimes push, hit and bite. You have to remember these are very young children who are just learning right from wrong.I would talk more to the teachers and find out how they are handling the biting.Make sure they are washing the bite after it happens. If you are happy with everything else you may want to give it some more time. Biting can happen in any daycare. When I have watched children that were biters, I would try to provide other items they could chew on. If they used a pacifier I kept it in their mouth during free time. Sometimes the child bites when they are teething, so maybe they could find something the child could use for teething. It is not something the parents can take the child home and fix overnight. It is hard on both families, nobody wants their child biting other children.
As for the asst. director, she should have looked into the problem more and not put the blame on your child. I have never seen a child bite themselves hard enough to leave a lasting mark. If you want to look for new daycare I would do it because of how she handle the problem, not because of the bite.
My daughter was bit by a child I watched when she was younger, so I do know what you are going through.
Good Luck and I hope everything works out for your family.
Cheryl

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B.B.

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You are not overreacting. biiting is normal but the fact that they did not notice it at all 2 days in a row is odd.
Can't help you on daycares but Neilsen is good in Northbrook/ Northfield.
If there is a YWCA in your area call them for a list.
B.
www.gottotsinc.com

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E.B.

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WHAT?! I would strongly question the quality of your daycare if your baby has bite marks on his body and no one seems to know why. You are absolutely not overreacting, and if you don't get a satisfactory answer about what's happening tomorrow, then you need a new daycare yesterday. I am so sorry to hear about this - do not second guess what you're feeling. You're right and you and your son deserve better treatment. Good luck and don't be afraid to push this issue!

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J.C.

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I would not take my child back. As another mom said, what else may be going on that he cannot communicate to you. The last msg that talked about how it happens in a snap and you can't catch it all is insane. A child being bitten I'm sure causes a scream, a cry, or something and for them not to know about it even after the fact is horrible. Yes take him out of that environment and YES TAKE HIM OUT BECAUSE HE GOT BIT. Think of your baby boy and don't worry about giving the day care providers the benefit of the doubt. I walk right past a kindercare on my way to my new job and at first sight I thought maybe I should get info and see if I should enroll my daughter. The next day, as I walked to the Kindercare facility, I witnessed 2 women sitting there with their backs to the children while some children played on the playset and others climbed things they shouldn't be climbing......and they never turned their way. Taking my daughter there is no longer an option for me.

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D.M.

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I would look into a small home daycare setting!!
I have been a home daycare provider for 13yrs and that is just crazy!!! in a small home setting this would not happen!!!
So sorry that your going through this.

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S.R.

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Get him OUT of there. 1 time is normal - with a report, 2 times is TOTALLY acceptable. If it's on his back he is not doing it himself and that is the lamest excuse I have ever heard. I would not send him back another day, if he is 12 months what else is happening that he can not communicate to you.
So sorry you have to go thru this.

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M.S.

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hi
i was on the other side of the fence 2yr ago...........my son was the bitter and i got a call as well as the mom of the poor little boy my son bit......
My son did this the second time and they again called me and told me he was "suspended" for a day. But i got a call within 10min after the incident happend. What i didn't like was that there was 2 teachers in the calss room and i just didn't understand how they 1. didn't catch isaiah b\4 he bit, 2. after it happened once you would think that they would say "hay guys we need to keep an extra eye on isaiah because he bit someone yesterday". What i didn't like either was they made it seam like it was isaiah fault....he was 1.5yr.....they are the adults watching him....they are getting paid to make sure all the kids are safe........from kids liek mine...lol

Well his main teacher told me that she would have to keep my son in his crib when teh other kids played on the floor and when they were in there crib...my son can come out and play..............i was enraged..........when she told me this......

These are all the reasons why my boys are in a home daycare(a great one i might add)

But to answer your ???s the daycare should have called you and the other mom, to let you guys know what happen
hope this helps...

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J.P.

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A facility such as Kinder Care should have enough staff to watch all of the children all of the time. I think the fact that they didn't even catch it the first time is terrible. I also feel that if they were having to back track because of their first mistake that they would have called you the second time it happened to communicate with you right away to show that they are on top of things....which it doesn't seem like they are :( You are not overreacting.

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V.G.

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NO THIS IS NOT NORMAL@@

I had my daughter in day care and she had same incident twice and it was reported to me how it happenned. Have a detailed discussion with Director, you trust them eith your kid they are answerable to you.

This is a good day care center. I had my daughter in the center till 13 months till we moved out of the area..contact Jill or Ruth to visist the facility.

http://careforkidslearningcenter.com/

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J.S.

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What Kindercare is it? I just took my daughter outta a horrible Tutor Time and put her in a Kindercare. I dont want to go through this again, so please let me know which one so if its the same one we are in we can take her out BEFORE it happens.

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