Hubby, daughter and I went to a wonderful wedding this weekend. The groom was my husband's college friend & now they work together. I have met the groom many times, maybe 2-3 times a year I see him, and I only met his wife once. Well I really enjoyed myself at their wedding, it was lovely, romantic, loving, and I could go on. I felt so honored being there at the ceremony and reception that I really want to write them a little note saying as much. When leaving we did say it was such a lovely wedding and evening but really how much do you remember when everyone is talking to you. Plus they thought of everyone from elderly to the toddler, each child got an age appropriate little toy at their spot on the reception table... these two were so thoughtful. The wedding seemed to be about everyone not just themselves.
I mentioned it to my husband, saying that I might write a little note saying how wonderful it was we got to celebrate their love for each other with them. He snickered at me, then said that he did not think it was needed. Well no note is needed but I thought it would be nice, he said to do whatever I wanted. My husband is respectful and polite (most of the time, in a modern day sense) so I started to think would the note really be a hassle to the couple, maybe even rude to mention it again or would they enjoy it?
I am not expecting any mention of the note back, I just simply want them to know it was such an honor to be there. I have some wonderful good old fashion note/letter paper that I can use, found the 'dueling thank you notes' funny but I do want to avoid that.
I was going ot have my hubby give the note but now that you metion the manly factor I will be sending it to the couple. The couple is gone this next week on their honeymoon so I would send the note this weekend or during next week.
Why would it be rude? People put so much into their wedding planning - sounds like these two did especially, so I think they would appreciate knowing that the details did not go unnoticed. In todays world of facebook and texts, I think it would be very nice!
This world has lost a lot of it's manners. I agree when others say, "go for it!". I personally would have loved to receive such a nice letter, it would mean all my hard work and effort didn't go unnoticed. I think it's a wonderful, thoughtful idea.
I did that once for a very lovely wedding that my husband and I attended. The bride wrote us a thank you note back (I was not expecting it) and was so grateful for my 'thank you'. She said it was so kind of us to recognize that and that we were the only ones who sent them a thank you. I am certain the couple will appreciate your note...and definitely mail it -- it's more personal that way.
I think it's a WONDERFUL idea!!
How great that this couple realized they were celebrating their day and the rest of their lives with friends and family!!! I love to hear about the special touches they did!!
GO FOR IT!!!! I would LOVE to have had someone take notice like that at my wedding...okay- we only had 40 people at our wedding so it wasn't like we had a HUGE wedding (been there, done that!!)....SMILES!!
Your husband may have snickered, but the newly married bride and groom will love it.
They will LOVE it. Plus the time after a wedding is strange - leading up to the wedding, your life is consumed with planning and logistics...then afterwards you feel like you don't have anything to do for awhile. To get a note saying that all of your hard work paid off in such a lovely way would be incredibly rewarding for them. Do it!!
We didn't get regular notes in the mail after our wedding but we did get a lot of emailed notes right after ours saying how wonderful it was etc. We loved it of course! I kept them all! How could complimenting and thanking someone like that ever be inappropriate?
I would appreciate it if I had gone to all that trouble and someone noticed. I might send not a traditional thank you note. That will be like dueling thank you notes. Instead I would send a "Congratulations on your recent nuptituals" card or a blank card. Write a short note saying congrats, thanks again for inviting us, we had a great time. Everything was beautiful and memorable and it was so thoughtful of you to include us in your celebration.
It would not be rude at all. I would do it, just dont be suprised if you do not hear anything back about receiving the TY note. I am sure they will be busy with their honeymoon and after wedding "clean-up". But it is a very nice suggestion.
To someone who put a lot of thought and time into planning a really nice wedding, I'd think it would mean so much to hear from someone who attended that they were honored to be part of such a beautiful, thoughtful wedding! I know I was touched just by the people who casually commented that they had a lot of fun at our wedding--I remember walking down the aisle and thinking, OH MY GOSH...all these people came just for US! I was so overwhelmed with it all! And then our hosts passed around notebooks for people to wish us their blessings--my cousin wrote that he wished us to feel as blessed and supported every day of our marriage as we did that day, which I thought was really insightful--he wasn't married yet. Anyway--I would think anyone would LOVE to hear that their marriage ceremony and celebration were appreciated by their guests! Write it!!!!!
I think its a nice, thoughtful idea. I say go for it.
I think that would be so thoughtful of you - they obviously spent a lot of time planning and thinking about each guest to personalize the reception tables. I think a note of thanks/appreciation on your part would be perfectly lovely.
Have it mailed vs. have your husband "hand it off" ... it's a manly thing.
Go ahead, they would love it. We did! I also scrapbook so some of them went into our wedding scrapbook.
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I think it's nice:) Nine years later, I still love to hear that people enjoyed my wedding!
Yes, write it and mail it! Who wouldn't want to receive a note like that? It's these little things that make people smile. It'd be very nice to let them know that their extra effort was noticed! I just sent a mom friend of mine a note letting her know how well behaved her son was at my son's birthday party and what great manners he had and she said it was so nice to get a note like that.
Absolutely send the note! They'll love it! Who wouldn't?
I think your husbands reaction was just a guy reaction. I think sending a note is a lovely notion. Why would they think it rude? They'll probably appreciate that it was noticed just how thoughtful someone else viewed their wedding to be. Writing a note is totally something I would do, too, so I may be a little biased in my opinion. . .
I would love to get the note if i was the bride. it would be nice to know that someone appreciated all the time and work we put into the wedding. I think you should do it...not as a thank you note persay but a thinking of you kind of thing!
