Need Help Talking to My 3Yr Old About Where She Should Not Be Touched

B. -
At this early age kids are very curious about themselves and others. It is definitely the right time to talk to your daughter about what's appropriate and what's not. I agree with the other posters, but I would also like to add that a great lead in to the subject is to bring up what happened. So while you're explaining to your daughter that she has private parts that friends and big people shouldn't touch, you can say, "like when your friend at school the other day. He shouldn't have done that because he touched your private area." That way she can relate what you're saying to what actually happened. She may understand it more clearly.
Good luck!

Ive always heard you tell kids not to let any one touch them where their swim suits go (bakinni for girls) . and you can get a doll and put a swim suit on them and tell them that the parts that are covered up my their swim suits are their private parts and we don't let people touch our private parts.

It's never too early to talk to our children about appropriate touching. We explain to them what is appropriate and we explain what is not. We try to keep them calm enough that they will tell us if they are made to feel uncomfortable.

From my point of view, it's not ever appropriate for someone to put their hands down a little girls pants. Diapers are one thing, engaging a feel is another.

Sadly children learn by example. Often children that are acting out that way have other issues.

Be very frank with your small child that she has places that are special and private to her. She needs to keep her special places private and safe. It is impolite to share one's special places in public. As a small child, it is never appropriate for anyone at school to interact with her private areas. If you want her to tell you about anything inappropriate, you have to be willing to be chill and hear what she says. If you freak out about what she is telling you , then she will shut up and you won't know about it.

Be soft and calm and encourage questions about such experiences. Be willing to hear and not freak out. The most important thing is the safety of your child.

I talk to my girls (9 and 6) all the time about thier bodies. Bath time seems to be a good time to start these talks. I tell them they are in charge of their bodies. I try to give them a sense of empowerment. Kids have so few things they are 'in charge of' that knowing they are in charge of their own bodies is a really GOOD thing for young girls (and boys).
One other topic I always broach when talking about our bodies is Secrets. There are NO secrets when it comes to Mom and Dad. That ANYONE that tells them not to tell Mom and Dad something is NOT their friend and that they should tell us right away!
The two go hand in hand so I try to connect them.
There are some fantastic books out there about teaching kids to have sovereignty over thier bodies. Don't have time to go look up titles - but I have bought several off Amazon.com.
My girl call them the "Body Books" and LOVE them.

to add to the previous advice...you can also tell her is that no one should touch her where her swimming suit would cover.

I used to work with a lady who was a social worker and regularly talked to her children about "good touch vs. bad touch." She would do this usually during bath time and just explain who could touch her, like her parents, when helping her to bathe or go to the bathroom. They would talk openly about what kind of touching is appropriate, like cleaning and wiping or a doctor looking, but that friends and other adults should never try to touch their private areas.

Talk about it regularly and often so that your child becomes comfortable with the subject. Make sure she knows she can speak up if anyone makes her uncomfortable.