We are looking for a good attorney for my husband and his three boys. He is having a real hard time with his boys mother. She continues to bad mouth him to the boys and he gets a call almost every day threatening to go back to court etc. He has standard visitation but would like more rights to see and talk to his boys. We are in desperate need of help and feel like we are at our wits end. When we have the boys with us they are fine but as soon as they go home to mom they "hate" their dad. Its gotten so bad they won't talk to him at any sport functions. Any suggestions would be appreciated!
The Oklahoma Bar maintains a list of attorneys that work in particular practice areas.
http://www.oklahomafindalawyer.com/FindALawyer
I don't know where in OKC you are located, but I know a few lawyers that do that kind of out in Mustang.
Maureen Schuette Nelson is an excellent family/divorce attorney. Her phone number is ###-###-####. She is on St. Louis Ave. She deals with these type of cases all the time and does a good job.
If you dont mind me asking, how old are the boys? I know in most states that after a certain age one parent can request that a judge talk with the children to see what they would like to do, whether it be live with one or the other or see the other more often or whatever it may be. I will contact a child rights advocate lawyer to see what kind of options you would have available to you. And go from there. I dont live where you live but that is a suggestion.
Hi C.,
I read your post, and was wondering is money is an issue, or if you are just looking for a referal for a good attorney?
Y. D.
I would definetly sit down with an attorney or mediator. Sometimes the schols have student support leaders that can help you. Is this affecting the behavior at school. It definitely sounds like it is getting out of hand. Just remember that it is not the childrens fault. They are being taught how to hate their father by someone else. Continue to support them in activities and love them always no matter what their mom does or says that way she can't turn it around on you. Take her to court before she takes the initiative. David Fines in Taylorville was my mom's lawyer when they were getting a divorce but that's been 10 years ago. I hope this helps and keep me posted on the progress. I work with children in the Springfield school district and I deal with these problems all the time. Good Luck.
Sounds like it really does need to be address, it's a sad situation, and I"m sorry you guys are in it. ###-###-#### is the number for the MoBar association, and they can give you numbers for attorneys in your area. Hope you are able to get some help with it!
There is also co-parenting for divorced couples, it's to bad for the children that there isn't a court order stating that neither parent shall make derogitory (how do ya spell that!) remarks in the presence of the children.
Can he file an ex-parte order Pro Per? It might be worth a try, it worked for me.
Good luck.
It sounds like he needs more of a mediator if he cannot sit down and speak to his Ex in a civil conversation. He needs to calmly tell her that as much hate as she feels towards him, she is only hurting the boys. There is proven studies done on this, and the parent that bad mouths the other will end up being hated by the children for taking precious time and memories away from the other. This will come later in life, but truly stresses out the children now. If she cares about the boys as much as she says she does, she needs to keep her feelings private. By bad mouthing their father, she is bad mouthing them as well. They come from his genes, and will always be a part of him. Good luck. This is a very sensitive situation. It could be a good idea to sit down and explain to the boys even at a very young age, that no matter what anyone says about their father, he LOVES them. It does help sooth their feelings.
Jennifer A
