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I was swaying back and forth reading this. On the one hand she is not obligated to say or do anything for your birthday. Since it's something you have both acknowledged in the past I wonder. Did she not put a reminder on the calendar or is she mad? Do you want to keep this relationship or can you do without it? If you keep ignoring her and are okay with it maybe it's time to move on. Friends come and go. If the pros outweight the cons then forgive and forget. It might be a good idea to lay things out just so you get it off your chest but you might make her defensive. Yea, the whole complaining about BF is something I don't get. You can only handle so much before you just want to have space. It sounds like you have been hurt and she doesn't even realize it. Maybe she's hurt too. Have a heart to heart and let her know how important you value her friendship if you desire to maintain the friendship. Oh, she only works twice a week and she doesn't have time? I will soon be home FT and I'm not sure if I'll know how to spend my days with my kids. I guess each person is different, but I work M-F 8 hours a day, we have our three year old in three evening classes, and put on my bible study class and I feel like I don't have time.