Need a Little Help

did you check with the with his docter

Sounds like it's time for them to learn about Conflict Resolution! Woohoo! Here are a couple links for you:

http://www.ohrd.wisc.edu/onlinetraining/resolution/index.asp

http://www.crinfo.org/

Also, i was taught one method of resolving conflict when I was a teen that goes as follows:

1. At NO POINT are the people discussing the issue allowed to use blaming language or to speak to the motivations of the other.

2. I statements only. No "you" statements.

3. "I see" - Facts only.
4. "I feel" - your emotions only.
5. "I want" - concrete resolution (i.e., "I want to be the only one who touches my hairbrush.")

6. Take turns.

The thing that always helped us is to have the kids sit on the floor knees to knees holding hands and stay that way till they are smiling at each other. :) Got your attention... HAHA All the while they are doing this they are thinking of 3 things they like about the other person with out talking. :) If they are angry or talk or don't smile they stay there till it passes and they smile at each other. Ok now have them say the 3 nice things they thought of nicely to each other. It is harder on you than them but hang in there. My kids did this for years and it does make them think of each other in a different way. Eventually they knew what was coming and just said I know and assumed the position. HAHA

I also did this at the school as a noon aid. They did not hold hands but after a fight they had to stand on the wall and be nice to go play. Then as the anger left the 3 nice things had to be said to each other with me there and all smiles. At school there was no holding hands but they all got the message and would just say to new kids the sooner you are happy the sooner she will let us go so be nice. :) HAHA Kids are so smart and doing it this way you do not have to be a bad guy and they are learning to appreciate each other.

Hope it helps.
D. :)

Dear C.,
Dont worry. Four years from now they will be the best of friends, although you will probably still be yelling at them to clean their room!
C. M.

Welcome to the world of teenagers. I've got a few of those. LOL! I really don't know why they have to be reminded so much and why teenagers are so lazy but they are. I guess their brains are going in so many different directions that it's easy to forget.
I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you. Just know that they will outgrow it when they become adults.
Good luck!
Huggles,
J.

I don't think you need to worry, all kids go thru this. I too remember as a preteen and teen how I fought with my siblings. I was the youngest of six and somewhat of a brat. But now I can honestly say that my two sisters are my best friends and I am really close to my three brothers.
They'll out grow it.

C.,

I think it's just the stage. I know around that age, my sister and I argued all the time. I see it as well with my daycare providers kids.