I am having problems getting my son to stay sleep at night. He will get out the bed in the middle of the night and always come to my side of the bed, wakes me up, and tries to crawl in between my boyfriend and I. He is always so active during the day and bouncing off the wall so I thought he should sleep good at night. Some mornings he wakes up refreshed and other mornings when he gets up he is in a bad mood. So when I drop him off to daycare he is still tired and cries, a lot. What can I do to ensure he is getting enough rest.
My son hasn't slept in the bed with me since birth but he has slept in the room with me up until a few months ago. His crib was in my room before and now he has his own room at the new place. My boyfriend has been around since my son was a few months and he's almost 2 now.
I always say let them sleep with you if that is what they feel they need. There will come a time when they will want not much if at all to do with their mom, and you will desperately pray that they wanted to get closer to you. He just wants to get closer to you and feel included, enjoy it while it lasts. As soon as he starts feeling more secure that he has you no matter what he will rest better.
I don't know what to tell you to do, but my son is doind the same thing.I feel your pain and tiredness. :) Akk we can do is hope that soon it will pass. Hang in there.
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How long has your boyfriend been staying over? your son may feel that his attention is being taken by your boyfriend. Often times children of a single parent become attached strongly and its hard to share their mom, especially with new people. being so young it is too hard to explain to him any details. just be sure you are giving him the solo time with you he needs to feel secure. if you aren't living with your boyfriend try a few nights apart. try some extra tiring things at night before bed to help him sleep harder. run around for a while or dance with him. then read a book to calm down. milk and turkey are foods that induce sleep. also carbs like bread or crackers. a full tummy will help sleep too.
my girl is almost 3 and still wakes up a lot at night. its just one of those things.
Try getting him into a routine. Try a few different things like, story time, bath time, then bed time and see if that works. It's just a shot in the dark, but it may work. Good luck.
I keep thinking that perhaps his behavior is from him feeling insecure. Are there big changes going on in his life? Any new changes in schedule? Or people in his life? Make sure he feels secure, loved and protected. If that means sleeping with you for a while then let him. : ) Nothing wrong with that if you dont mind the kicks every now and again!
My son started doing the same thing..What I did was hug him..and put him back into his bed..Kiss him good night and go back to my own bed...Many times he would follow me back and I would just repeat the routine..I think at this age that they are looking for reassuance that you are still there..After a few nights of doing this, he is finally sleeping through the night...:)I hope this helps.. :)
Well I have had this problem with my kiddos as well but in different ways at different stages.
My oldest we took out of a crib around 18 months- she did fine for about a month and then was getting up- clearly 18 months is not when they are mature enough to have such freedom. so we put her back into a crib- inwhich she could get out of so we put her in a porta crib. By 20 months she was again staying in the portacrib and wasn't climbing out- even though she knew she could she also recognized that the portacrib was her limit. I wish we had never taken her out of the crib as I think it set the stage for bad night time behavior with her.
With that said the rest of the kiddos that have followed have stayed in their cribs/porta cribs until we potty train for night time- so around 3. And with that said ALL of them did great for a while and then- usually around 3 1/2- would come into our room at night.
So here is my fix for those sistuations and my ground rules.
either get a crib mattress or one of those fold up pillow chairs from walmart (I like the real ones you find in the home section- not the little kid ones found in the toys). When it is the childs bedtime they go to bed IN THERE BED before I go to bed though I either pull out the matress or unfold the chair and set up a bed on the floor. If the child gets up at all before I go to bed then they go back to their room. HOWEVER if the child gets up when I am already asleep then they are ALLOWED to sleep on the little bed on the floor.
This stage usually only last a few months and I id always encourage them to stay all night in their own bed but I did not get angry at them for comming into my room.
I had decided that my sleep and the sleep of my child was more important than night time battles. I think the longest time period of a child comming in in the middle of the nigth was with my second and hers was on and off for about 7 months - but again on and off she would do it 3 nights in a row and then nothing for 3 weeks. the number three girl though it only lasted about 2 1/2 months.
Your son is still VERY young. If it were me I would put him back in a crib or porta crib. He will be mad at first but after a few days he will except it. If you can not keep him in a porta crib then you have a few options. One is to buy one of those canopy nettings that attached to the top of a crib/porta crib and that way he can not crawl out OR try and set up a litt bed on the floor at night and see if he can grasp the concept of in mamas room but not in her bed. 21 months is just very young. If everyone sleeps fine in the bed together then you can always just let him continue to crawl inthere with you guys but if that is not something that in contusive then try to find a happy medium or alternative. If you were dealing with a three yr old then I would pressume that this is just a stage and would be over in 2-6 months but you are going through this with a child who isn't even 2 yet. I personally would get him back in a crib and leave him in it until he is 3 =-)
Does he usually end up sleeping in your bed?Or is this something new?Me and my husband made the mistake of letting my first sleep with us since birth.He has had his own bed since he was 2.He goes to bed in his room but ends up in ours.And even on a king size bed it still gets crowded.If this is a old habit then you'll just have to be consistant about getting up and putting him back to bed.It'll take alot of lost sleep but the end result is worth it.I'm giving mine lead way until we buy him a big boy room set in feb. and then he's gonna get a rude awakening.If it's something new then maybe it's something that's changing in the schedule or home life that is making him want to sleep with you.Either way, the longer u prolonge it, the harder it's going to be to break.
