My Pre Teens Are Out of Control and in Need Orf Counseling And ....

... wow, gosh I really wish the best for you...
when things do stabilize or maybe even now,... perhaps something like the Big Brothers/BIg Sisters organization might be able to provide a "mentor" /role-model for your kids....since you are a single parent.
Here is a link about it:
http://www.bbbs.org/site/c.diJKKYPLJvH/b.1539751/k.BDB6/H...

My friend, who was also a single-parent with 3 kids boys & girl... got a Big Brother for her sons... and it made a world of difference in her sons. It really helped a whole lot. Her sons were real lost too, and just not going in the right direction. But this put a positive spin in their lives and they returned to being the kids she always knew they were. Good kids. And it is not something you have to pay for. For your daughters too, maybe a "Big Sister" type mentor might help them.

I wish I had other answers for you... but I hope this helps or at least gives you ideas.
May everything work out,
all the best,
Susan

go ahead and seek help, see if you can do it anonimously, so you can be sure nobody will take your children away. Go to theraphy if possible without the counselor knowing your last name, address etc... so you won't have to be afraid and will decide later about what to say and to whom. You are a good mom finding help for your children...they need it to have the best life possible from now on. Good luck.

Are there any psychologists that the insurance deos cover? I wouldl start there. Get yourself to the counselor too. When you make a concerted effort to better your situation it will help the children.
Are they involved in sports? Sometimes something liek that will keep them focused on the bigger picture. Like teamwork and bettering themsleves.

Wow. Please get help for yourself & your kids. The job of CPS is just that -- to protect children. I'm a nurse and therefore a mandated reporter. I've only had to file a report a handful of times when the situation was so bad it couldn't be overlooked and CPS actually helped. The focus now is on family preservation and sometimes they can authorize free services that a family otherwise wouldn't qualify for. If, as you say, the children aren't being abused you shouldn't be afraid to seek help.