OMG! I'd be furious!
First, also being a loving-stepmom myself, this could be tricky for you. If their mom is COMPLETELY out of their lives, then you can 'run with this'......however, if not, then you might want to guide your hubby through it, having him doing all the calling and appointments.
Does your son often "exagerate the truth", or is this a new thing? I ask because you almost sounded "shocked" that he would lie about his eating and sleeping.
Sometimes, after counseling, our kids realize WHY they are seeing someone....they understand that the counselor is a person who tries to help them with their problems....... Anyway, I don't know why, but (in my experience) they DO begin to exagerate their life to their counselor...... I don't know if it's because they THINK they need to come up with something to talk about, or what.......our situation never got as far as being called like you did....oh! That would infuriate me!
Elementary students are still innocent and sweet, so I really don't hold blame on your stepson as he felt he was doing the right thing, even if it was a lie. But, he IS old enough to understand why he SHOULDN'T be saying things that are not true.... hence CPS, etc.... perhaps this should be discussed with him. I think he will feel embarrassed about it, knowing he has a loving home, so I would start out easy on him :O)
I agree to get him a physical with his Dr. You need something documented that he was medically fine around the same time that the counselor called you.
It's not necessary yet, because you will be canceling your counseling, but you might want to see the Principal to "keep him in the loop" of everything. Should things continue to go "bad" you have made yourself understood. In my experience, Principals are defensive when you approach them about their Staff.....so don't forget to start off about how much "she has helped you and your son" :O)
When you cancel counseling it can be simple, "Thank you for your time and observations, as they have really helped with Timmy's frustrations. I would like to see how he does by himself for awhile. I have your number if we need to continue our sessions.".....you don't owe anything more, and even that is probably too nice, but you want it to end decent if possible....
I'm curious what age he is, because my son went through a couple of frustrating years around 4th & 5th grade. He did well, however, I noticed at home his frustration for school for the first time. His friends were going through the same problem (after talking with their moms).
On a positive note, she IS probably trying to do her job. It sorta makes me happy that a school counselor is actually trying to prevent a child from being in a bad home..... she might be out of options with 'Timmy' because she cannot find a link to his frustrations.....so, it MUST BE his "homelife", the eating, the sleeping, the scratch.... it all makes sense now to her....
I don't know......I'm just trying to help! I think I've calmed down now :O) Good luck with this~
~N. :O)