My Nephew Is a Bad Influence!

Ummm, if I am around a seven year old who is cussing and being/talking about sex, then I will correct them and tell them that's not allowed. I wouldn't stand for it. I would start by nicely letting the SIL know that her son was speaking in a HIGHLY inappropriate manner, so she should be watchful of that behavior. If she does nothing say, "You know____, people really shouldn't use cuss words, and kids just aren't allowed to at all, so you cannot say those words -at least around me and my kids." I would say the same thing about sex stuff. Tell him that (whatever he's saying) is for adults and it's a private matter that is not discussed in public and certainly not discussed in public by 7 year olds!

Same rules that you have for your child apply to the nephew-remind him of them before any play time with your child and enforce them when you are together. It takes a village to raise a child and apparently somewhere along the way he has been taught that this is acceptable. Children crave rules/ structure and if they don’t get the positive reinforcement then they will go the opposite way.

I had to pull our children out of that enviroment. I have my niece and nephew over only on our terms and they have learned how to operate in our home. They do not come over often at all, that is the sad thing but it is life..

Prayer is always good. This is tough because as a GOOD parent your initial reaction is to protect your child and to give them the best! :)
You are on the right track! Tell your husband that if he is not going to talk with them and set the boundaries then you will! When your child is around her cousin- he is not to say bad words in front of her and he needs to be on good behavior- if not- you don't need to be bringing your daughter around that. I hate when people use the reasoning that "children are going to encounter these things in life and have to deal" NO! You continue to set higher standards fo your little girl- because that is what she deserves. I feel bad for your nephew, because his parents should be doing the same for him.

Correct your nephew yourself if his parents wont. All kids need guidance, too bad they are failing him...

Cussing happens in the world. So does talk about sexual things.

I'd worry less about other people's children, and make sure to inform my own of how "we" behave, no matter the company we're in.

Unless you tell her in a "You are a horrible parent" way, if they alienate you, that is really pretty messed up! I doubt they will though! I think in addition to telling the kid that you don't like that kind of talk and tell him that he must leave the room until he can speak properly (or whatever you think is good to say) you have to speak to his mom!! Tell her how it makes you and your daughter feel to have him talking like this. No, it's definetly NOT OK! At my son's preschool they are not allowed to tell knock knock jokes anymore because they used the word poop...so you are more than justified.

Well his father would be your brother, and its time to be the sister and let him know his son has a problem. If he doesnt, already know it, and your brother is fine with his behavior. Time to separate yourself from the family and the situation, if you are not comfortable with telling the boy to stop in your daughters presence. If you cant have some kind of confrontation then dont, just stay away and only see them on occasion. They will get the message there is something wrong eventually. If not, well then you need to tell them, or suffer his bad behavior.

Yikes that is tough one. Since you can't alienate yourself from family events can you stop your child from hanging out with cousin when together. That would probably be my next step. Like have your daughter bring a handheld video game or portable dvd player. Or only allow her to play with him in your presence.