So I got my big girl pants on and actually spoke up and told him I thought it would be insensitive if he went and asked him not to. I can deal with pain but mostly because pain meds make my heart race and make M. loopy and paranoid since I never ever take them.
So anywho even though I was set on being immature and being mad even if I didn't speak up in my medicated girly emotional haze I took a step in a diferent direction. You guys are teaching my 29 year old self to finally communicate=)
Anyone else ever go against your instincts and listen to the group on here even if you don't like the advice-b/c it's not how you feel?
Constructive criticism rocks--even if you told M. I was being a baby (which I was=) )!
Dawn- I pointed out in both I saw that I was wrong (and that I was drugged up and in pain), but still my emotions wanted him to not even want to go. No matter how wise and old you are you still have unreasonable emotions sometimes. I chose to communicate after reading everyones advice, BUT yes I admit to not wanting to because I still wanted him to be there for M. without M. asking. I did learn and make an attempt to change by asking him
Jo- condescending old farts- made M. laugh-I value your opinion more than most in my life! Ussually I onlt think the people my age are condescending old farts=) I wish the core crew of the mamapedia girls/guys all lived in one neighborhood- we should all move and make a mamapedia community, so if I need to be slapped or phyiscially shaked into sanity I can be=)
If I came on here not willing to accept the advice then I feel that I would be waisting everyone's time. I have also said time and time again - it is often the advice we DO NOT like that is the advice we need to pay the most attention to.
It's not so much that you were being a baby. You were NOT communicating to him. it was like, you expected him to read your mind. KUDOS to you for COMMUNICATING!! YOU GO GIRL!!
I've received a lot of great advice on this site. I've received some pretty stupid responses too that had NOTHING to do with the subject I questioned...oh well...that's life.
I have taken advice on here and used it...or I have taken it and melded it together with my "gut instinct" and made it work.
There are some pretty amazing women on this site! Luckily only a few bad apples!! YAHOO!!
I think it is funny because people think I am fighting with them when I actually feel like they have a point but I need more information. :p So yes, advice here has changed my mind before.
I think what you youngins need to understand is we did the stupid things we are telling you not to do. It didn't work out, don't do it! Kind of nice to see some listen without assuming we are being condescending old farts! :)
I see nothing wrong with public slapping. :p
Girrrrl, dont take these chicks too seriously!
Im sorry, but you J. had surgery, your man should have KNOWN better without you even having to nag at him to stay home.
Whateva!
You're so fun, M.
Hope you're feeling better.
:)
I don't get the point of view you having been set on being immature and mad. I don't get not wanting to speak up because you want him to be "the man". He's obviously NOT a mature man himself and doesn't understand some types of responsibility, including taking care of someone when they are sick. I J. don't understand how your instincts tell you not to speak up - maybe I'm J. too OLD to see life that way.
I hope you're changing your instincts, because life is too short to play these kind of games with your spouse (or SO). I'm not calling you a baby, mind you. I J. think that you could really benefit from trying to look at things a different way.
Dawn
Good for you!!! I'm so proud of you! :)
The first time is always the hardest. It's all easy rolling from here (mostly). :)
Good for you for communicating your needs :)
So.....did he understand and stay home??
