D.P.
I think the "man of your dreams" should move to where YOU are, not you move to him. What man calls a child "his" from day O.?
Aside from his "whole 120" per month, what kind of father is your ex-boyfriend? He has a right to see her and be in her life.
I doubt that having another child for ANY other reason than love is always a bad idea.
I'm sorry, it sounds to me like you have some growing up to do. My opinion from your question.
*added* If you met this guy last summer, and he is halfway across the country, I feel you do not know him well enough to be planning how many kids you will have, etc. This is ridiculous.