Moms - Mohegan Lake,NY

Edit after up date: I am so happy your mom is ok! I am also glad she had a talk with you. I understand you love your mom very much an that made you very worried about her. Think of all the things you did right. You went next door and got help. You took care of your sibling. You reached out to us. You are maturing and next time something happens, you can handle that too. Be brave, you can handle it!

Sweet heart, she will be getting the help she needs. Everybody has accidents. I fell down the stairs last year and broke a rib but I am fine now.
It's not your fault, it's an accident. I am sure she would not want you to be freaking out. Take some deep breaths. Wash your face. Is there someone you can call to come stay with you? A relative, a friend's mom? It's going to be ok.
I am sure your dad is on his way to your mom. Listen to the mom that is there. Talk to the God you celebrate tonight. He has told you he is a merciful God. He loves both you and your mom. Trust Him. It's going to be ok.

Added after your So What Happened: so glad to see your update, D., and know that your mom is okay. And she is right, just like we were - accidents happen.

Original:
This is NOT your fault, honey. It really isn't. I had a friend (older lady) who was walking on a tread mill, and turned around to talk to a lady, and lost her grip and fell off the treadmill. Was THAT the other lady's fault? No, it wasn't. Accidents happen. Your mother had an accident. You did not cause it. It isn't your fault and it's not her fault.

I want you to really listen to what I'm writing here because it's important. Right now you need to think about your mom instead of yourself. Not calming down is actually a selfish thing. I know that might sound mean, but it is true. Your dad needs you to calm down. So does your family. And so does your mom.

When you can calm down, you can listen to the people who can really tell you how she is. If you can't be calm, they will not want to tell you anything about your mom because they won't think that you are capable of dealing with it. You are 13. You ARE old enough to deal with it. And you are also old enough to stop putting blame for an accident onto yourself. You are doing NO ONE any good by continuing to do it. You are, however, making things harder.

So buckle up and be a big girl and stop freaking out. Your family needs for you to be calm now. So be calm.

Prayers for your mom,
Dawn

You can't back up and dial 911, that would have been the immediate thing to do. Accidents happen, you didn't push your mother down stairs and you weren't arguing when it happened. (Even if you were, accidents still DO happen).

I think God will understand if Shabbos isn't celebrated in your home this evening. If you dad is at work and not at the hospital, he should be home with you and your siblings. I don't know what to think of that.

Please address you fear with your parents, if you can't talk to your neighbor or a school counselor. I pray that your mother will be fine, please keep us posted.

What have you done so far? Need more info to give best advice.

You need a live person to console you. I'd call the mom of one of your friends or a friend of your mom's your dad. How about a grandparent or an aunt or uncle?

We can't tell you whether or not it's your fault without having a more detailed description of what happened. If the two of you were arguing but you didn't touch her then it's not your fault. You feel bad because it probably wouldn't have happened if you weren't arguing. It's on both you and your mother if you were having an argument. The two of you share responsibility. If you pushed her then, yes it's your fault and feeling guilty is a good thing.

You really do need to talk with a live person.

After you SWH: You can calm yourself. Stop telling yourself it's your fault. It's not. Take many deep breaths while focusing on something else. You can calm down. Stop sobbing and listen to your dad. He's trying to reassure you. Listen and accept his words. Instead of repeating that it's your fault, repeat that it's not your fault.

Glad your Mom is OK! You are a great kid by the sounds of it with a great Mom. Help her out with the broken elbow. God Bless You All!