J.L.
I feel where you are coming from. My 9yr. old has this problem. It started to show when he was about 3. It wasn't until he was 7 before we found out he has O.D.D..oppositional defiant disorder. Last school year he caused so many problems he had to be home bound in November for the rest of the year. I actually had to quit my job a few years back just so I could be able to go to school when they needed me. I had him tested by a psychologist and he has odd and adhd. I took him out of public school because they just didn't want to help with this at all. I found a charter school "which is free" and they are ready for children with these behavior problems. I was told my son will have a harder time get past this because we didn't catch it early enough, but he was right on the time border. After the age of 8 they say it's harder for them to "grow" out of this disorder. Medicine is helping, well making things not as stressful around the house!! He won't be like this forever, I wish you good luck and I hope this will help!