Making Father and Son Bond More

I couldnt help but giggle out loud when I read this! Only because I have been through the same thing, and still going through it! We have a 10 yr., 8 yr., and 5 mos. I have always been the one doing "night night" and reading, etc. I dont remember the two older ones much of what we did, but now, with the new baby, the girls are insistant with me doing all the routines! (to give them credit, they have gotten better with age) It is very hard! But we just have to keep reassuring them that daddy wants time with them too, and "what a treat that daddy gets to read you a book...." or "OBOY! Daddy gets to put _________ to bed tonight" We make it sound like such a treat!! (which it is for both parties, dad and kids) But when I give him baby to hold, he does the same thing; follows me around, under my heels, until I take him back! He getting better, only does it when the baby is fussy or crying. Just keep it up, and keep dad involved, and your little one will come around. We are all creatures of habit, you know! Good luck!

D. E ,
I can understand where you come from on that one. I have a 2 year old and a 8 month old. I tried making my husband do it. If you have to go to the store when it is bed time for him that way you aren't even in the house. Then there is only daddy to do it. As long as mommy is around than they want the mommy. My nephew tyler is like that if his mommy is around he will not go to bed for me but if she isn;t then I have no problems what so ever.
Love always
N. W

i'm jelous. I spend all day with my girls just like you while my husband works all day! When he comes home he sits on the couch and does nothing but watch tv or he will go strait to the computer all night. Well you would think that my oldest daughter (20 months) would ignore him the same way but she imediatley squeals when he gets home and then hangs on his leg the entire night until bed time.

Went through the same thing!!! My boys are 2 years and one month apart and Dad works alllll theeee timeeeee!!!!! The oldest is a Mommy's boy and balks when Daddy tries to put him to bed, read him a story or take him somewhere. He has been doing this forever though. My youngest (he will be two in November) is a total Daddy's boy. If I try to do anything with him while Daddy's here then he balks and says NOOOO!!!! So, it could be just the personality. As for the following you around with the baby until you take the baby back, I would just not take the baby back. Of course, I have never been through that, when my husband is home he helps me out a lot.

I guess what I would try is for a few nights just get out of the house around bedtime and make Daddy the only one there. Take the youngest with you or, hell, leave them both. I know, if you are like me, that you are exhausted by the time bedtime rolls around for the kids, but I think it would be worth it. I did it with the oldest because I couldn't do anything without him right there to bump into my butt if I stopped. He still wants me to do everthing but he doesn't throw fits if I don't do it. Good luck!!

well it sounds to me like even though he is home more he is doing the same thing with the second one. kids go through stages where they want one parent over the other one. I would tend to your 2 1/2 year old when he wants mommy to help him, and make daddy spend time with the 4 month old so that he is used to daddy helping and it is not an uncommon thing. I am sure your older son will go through a daddy stage and only want daddy to help with things, but right now he wants you and that is not bad. you have to make your husband see that just because he wants mommy right now doesn't mean he doesn't ever want daddy. And the more involved he is with the baby the more used the baby will be to daddy getting him ready for bed and it won't matter so much which parent does it.