Low to No Sex drive........HELP !!

Updated on August 01, 2007
N.K. asks from Fort Worth, TX
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I am 39 with two girls 15 & 12. For the last year or so I have almost no sex drive. I know it makes my fiancee feel like its him because when we first got together we were always at it. Any helpful ideas from any ladies who have bee through this. I NEED HELP. Thanks Moms

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M.B.

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Yet another suggestion to get your hormones checked. Many of them being too low can cause that problem including thyroid and testosterone (yes, women have that too and too low a level impacts libido), as well as the progesterone already mentioned. You'll want to find a practitioner that uses bio-identical hormone replacement if you have problems in that area. You can actually get this all tested yourself through this site: www.canaryclub.org Most of the hormones are done by saliva testing and some (like cortisol) are tested multiple times during the day, so they are more accurate than a single blood test that most conventional doctors will do.

However, I do not recommend self treating as it can be very difficult to get the right balance. For example, DHEA is an OTC supplement, however, it gets converted to both testosterone and estrogen. If you only have low testosterone (and not estrogen), it can make the problem worse. And just trying hormones such as testosterone (without testing) is also not a good idea as that can have negative side affects like facial hair. Your age is extremely indicative of this being your problem as many women start having issues with hormone levels by the time they reach 40 due to periomenopause. Also, there are many toxins in our environment (and food) that impact our hormonal balance in a negative way.

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C.R.

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Hi N.,
Could it be a change in your hormones? You might want to get your hormone levels checked out by your doctor. Especially if this is something that started suddenly for you.
C.

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S.T.

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I also say check the hormones and also think about any medications that you might be on. Many times that can be a side effect of medications.

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S.L.

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N.,

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E.M.

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are you getting enough rest? maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself and it is causing anxiety?
I hope you figure it out...God bless, liz

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H.C.

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Low progesterone can cause low sex drive. Get your hormones checked.

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C.F.

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When I feel the way you do, I like to spice things up by making my husband dress up, I cannot resist him once he wears a suit with a tie, nicely shaved, with his manly cologne...top it off with a nice bottle of wine, it always works for me. So, what is your idea of a great looking man? Make YOUR man act the part. Sometimes as parents we get carried away, after a day with the kids all we want to do is jump in bed and sleep, man on the other hand are not that way. But that being said, we can always find ways to speed up our sex drive one way or another.

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