No Sex Drive

I would like to know about this too. My husband is very patient with me but I often wonder what is wrong with me.

If you find out please let me know. I just recently had my second child, she is 6 months, and I am going through the same thing.
thanks

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Hello, R.! I am wondering if you are taking birth control pills. I ask, because the birth control pills that I take affect me the same way. I noticed that when I accidently forget to take them, my sex drive would come back fully. I reached a point, where even kissing was unwanted or intolerable. I once read an advertisement on birth control pills, that said that low sex drive could be caused by them. You might need to either change your pills to a different brand, or try another form of birth control, if you are taking them. My husbands suggestion to me, who is studying to become a doctor, was that I should consult my OBGYN, because sometimes it could be a neurological problem, which in turn could be referred to a neurologist.

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I feel the same way. Mine might be exhaustion. I don't feel like I have the energy to put into having "good" sex, so I don't even bother. I usually stay up way past when my hubby goes to bed (he gets up very early) so sex is rare, but I know it bothers him. Honestly, it doesn't seem like a priority for me and I could care less if I had sex, but I know it is essential for a healthy relationship. I have a hard time reciprocating pleasure, but I figure as long as I let him have it once in a while, he's satisfied his urge. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone and the responses are interesting. Any more advice would be welcome.

Get a copy of Suzzane Sumers books...The Sexy Years or Ageless and read up on your hormones. It may be possible that after pregnancy you have a drop in your levels. You will need to find a doctor that is willing to have your hormone levels checked and evaluated by some one who can do more then just look at the numbers. There are a few doctors who are advertising BioIdentical Hormones now. I had mine read by the Clinical Pharmacist at the Apothecary Shops. Don't full yourself into thinking that you have to be menopausal or postmenopausal to need hormone replacement. Pregnancy is a huge stress on your body and changes many things. I wouldn't undo my pregnancies for anything, but I wish I had been better informed on what happens and how to take care of my body during and after pregnancy.
Most of all, keep pursuing it until you find an answer and beware..some doctors will prescribe anti-depressents to women who have complaints that can't easily be fixed. They won't help your sex drive, they will make it worse and mask the real problem. Bottom line in you have to be your own advocate and do your research. Good luck

I'd talk to your Doctor. It could be hormonal. They sometimes can increase a woman's testesterone levels to help her sex drive.

I don't know of any pills out there that are over the counter that are actually proven to work. Most are a combination of vitamins and minerals and some herbal remedies meant to improve the health of your body and thus improve sexual relations. To be honest with you the best thing to do is go to your doctor and see if there are any real physical reasons why your sex drive has gone. I had this problem after my son was born for nearly 6 months but it was depression that was causing it. Also, forcing yourself to be intimate with your husband might be doing more harm than good in your head. I found at that point it made me resent my boyfriend just a bit, I felt I had to do it in order to keep him happy. If you aren't happy as well though then there is a problem. I noticed in your profile it says your husband is a great guy, and I suspect that if you talk to him about how you have been feeling recently he will be understanding. Great guys are full of love and care for their partners, don't be afraid or feel guilty to tell him.

I hope this helps,
Y.

Do you get enough rest? You are the mother of a young one. Exhaustion can decrease our sex drive as well. Does your husband help around the house? If not can you talk to him about your exhaustion and how it is effecting your desires. And let him know you want to be intimate but you need help so that you have enough energy.
Also, does your child sleep in your bed or bedroom?
Try to think about what is effecting your life besides hormones and pills.
Also, could you be pregnant?
Another thing? What was the delivey of your child like? Was it traumatic? Is there anything about that delivery that might be effecting your desire to be intimate? If so talking to someone, a doctor, about the post effects of the delivery might help.
Good luck!

Get your estrogen & testosterone checked. That is a biggy for no sex drive. My friend goes to a place where they check her levels and then she gets injections. She said it has improved tons since she has been doing that.

R.

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go to the doctor and have them ck your hormones. It's a blood test. compound pharmacys make natural hormoes. but you need a perscription. It fixed everything 4 for me. good luck.

Are you on any medications? This can also be a reason.

I just wrote this to another person on this board and I'm copying my response.

This is embarassing for myself to admit, but I too, had the same problem. Although, mine wasnt after our son was born, it was before that.

I looked one day at my husband (now we're divorced) and found that I didnt find the male body attractive. Wait!! I'm very straight and have no interest in women but it was very confusing to me.

After several years, we divorced and I've been with my now husband for 9 years. Although I dont find myself still attractive to the body itself, my husband does it all for me.

It really had to do with the way I was being treated. My ex didnt do the nice things for me, didnt tell me how beautiful I was and all that stuff that a woman needs to hear.

My first husband and I got together at age 18 so I was very young and since we didnt live together, when we did see eachother it was about sex, sex and more sex.

It was the same when my current husband and I started dating too. I lost interest again.

When I turned 32, my life CHANGED! I love sex and I'm always ready for it.

Our body goes through all kinds of strange things and stress is a big part of it. I dont feel that I stress like I used to, but my body says I am.

Good luck.

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I am so glad to see that other mothers have this same problem. I'm 33 with a 2 year old and I have no desire to have sex either. I thought that there was something wrong with me. But I'm sure your doctor is right that it is exhaustion. Hopefully it will get better in the next few years and we will just have to suffer through it until then huh? ...Thank you for sharing your story!!!!